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what my mother always told us growing up,and i feel like that lonesome sooooo lonesome and wanting of a good companion,but scared to cause of falling into a codependent one or worse a alcoholic/ addict one ,lol not much to pick from huh,but im older and wiser now and know what works and what dont and will not last just because of my coming here and striveing to learn about myself and staying with a recovery program has really made all the diff. thank u all my alanon freinds yall have truely brought me through alot,i cant ty enough,but i am struggleing big time with this lonesomeness,and thinking about going down and staying with a cripple male freind that has a huge crush on me just to get away for a while from here prolly do me good but at the same time im kinda concerned that i may end up really likeing this guy,lol need some more esh plz here i go agin,,on my rollercoaster.
[ i am struggleing big time with this lonesomeness,and thinking about going down and staying with a cripple male freind that has a huge crush on me just to get away for a while from here prolly do me good but at the same time im kinda concerned that i may end up really likeing this guy,lol need some more esh plz here i go agin,,on my rollercoaster.]
Hi Chinup, This is what you wrote at the end of your post. Read it as if I posted this and give me your ESH on it. I can hear you spiraling in your posts about this. Think and Don't React. Do you have a sponsor and some meetings you can get to? Have you read over your other posts on this? Are you HALT? I get lonesome and fight going and hanging out with my exAH at times and all I can do is wait myself out, but I no longer give in because it makes me crazy to spend time with him. At times I feel empty and lonesome, but I realize I can't fill that with other people. I am sending you courage, love and strength.
-- Edited by Breakingfree on Thursday 18th of August 2011 09:51:24 AM
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oh my breaking free,i dont know what to say really,except maybe im insane,or im really halt,i would love to move from here where there were meetings to go to ,just nothing here period,my kids or one has left ,never will return,and my son is going to leave soon as he can .i do need something,i have to learn to be happy with me in my own flesh,and enjoy my own company,just hard to do,but im gonna have too.ive picked up something new that i enjoy,walking in the mornins do help.focusing on me makes me feel selfish but its just that ive never really focused on just me always find something or whatever to take my mind off of me.im working on quit smoking.i hope one day i will.im soo sorry typeing all these things ,now im feeling dumb.sorry.....chinup
Hugs chin up,
One day at a time, it's sometimes just one moment at a time. Face to face meetings are great there are ones here 2x a day weekends are different. Plus even if you don't have a. ipod you can download alanon speakers from itunes to your computer and listen that way.
You aren't stupid, just don't glue your hindend to the pity pot. I mean that as a gentle nudge we've all been there. It's just a lot healthier to look at something and find hope.
Keep coming back keep posting you aren't alone. With your hp you are never alone. ;) if you aren't doing meetings please read some alanon lit. Co dependent no more was a great place for me to start.
Sending hugs and much support, p ;)
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