Someone once told me that Secrets cause cancer, not sure if that is true, but you get where it is coming from.
Be open and put it out there and then we can start to forgive.

After much thought and reflection, as well as last nights meeting thank you Alanon :) I had to accept responsiblity for my part in this whole mess. Truthfully, it's not that it's a mess really it's just these people do not communicate the way I think they should. They really aren't wrong (although yes, I do think it's not normal . lol) they just don't do it the way I think they should. LOL .. heellllooooo control issues on my part! Plus I panicked because I hadn't said anything directly about the situation, I knew I was going to get blamed for someone else saying something. It was sheer panic on my part .. lol. This is why I don't need to know .. I do not want anyone pointing any fingers at me saying she did or did not do this .. it's just sooo much nicer, peaceful and NO DRAMA!! I'm more mad I did this to myself than anything else for being sucked in. Just typing it out makes me feel like good grief this is the most ridiculous thing I've ever typed .. well not the most ridiculous, however it's dang close and I do not want to be in the middle. I know this .. lol .. and I'm really trying not to get sucked in.

I was very clear next time I just would rather NOT know. I do find it funny when someone says so and so talked to so and so and I'm really thinking that NO they did not actually talk. I think it makes one of the parties feel better to say they talked and the reality is not the way they are insinuating that it happened. They may have only sent a text or a weird fb message. Speaking is more than mono sylable words .. lol .. "How are you?" response "fine." "Is everything good?" response "yes" .. this is how the conversations go both sides. It's really not my business. I just am sad for my A because he really does need his family. Then I started thinking well really here these folks can't even communicate in a semi normal manner and really want to face this on a normal day? It's just better for me to stay on my side of the street and allow my A to communicate in a way with his family that works for him.

The only good part in this is that my A tried to put me in the middle to find out what is going on, and I told him if he wanted to know he needed to pick up the phone and call someone. There are many parties who know what is going on. I'm not the messenger and it's not ME anyone wants to hear from. It is also not my information to give. I didn't tell him that however I totally thought it .. LOL!!

Hugs P :)