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Hoot Nanny · ~*Service Worker*~

whatever; MOM again!

Pushka · ~*Service Worker*~

Kathleen,

Hugs, holy cow I started to laugh and I'm so soorrrryyyy .. only I can see my own mother do the same thing and be like SURPRISE guess who's coming to dinner, .. and let's add breakfast, lunch and more dinners to come for the next 3 years. Me going ummm .. not in the next 5 lifetimes is that ever happening .. LOL!! Bless your heart, .. you may be overreacting, personally I would want to know about this it's not a small thing (to me). My mother would just show up and not say anything so it's something I would have to address immediately. Again that's just me! Oh myy .. lol .. I so missed my calling as a dark comedy writer .. oui vey. I have the scene totally set up too.

Can you ask her directly? I tend to be a lot more direct with my mother especially under an announcement like that just to set the expectation or realistic boundary that is so not going to happen. I mean posing it in a question of hey mom, have you thought about what you are going to do if your house sells before such and such date and see what she has to say? I would probably suffer from massive foot in mouth disorder and say hey this came up as a topic of the other nights meeting was it a joke? Again I don't know if that's ok to address something like that with a family member or not when the conversation took place at a meeting I was not participating in. I would def find a way to nip it.

WOW .. my mother moving in with me would be like crazy town central and I would be moving out!!! It's not something I could do right now and I don't know if i will ever be that evolved or not, right now no .. it would be on the "not just no .. hell no" list.

Hugs P :)

Good luck and I'd be interested in knowing how it resolves itself. I'm sooo sorry, I know it's not funny to you, I just wish I could share a good laugh with you because I so understand. As soon as I read it I thought dang .. my mother has her twin running loose!!!

Bettina · ~*Service Worker*~

My only suggestion, COMMUNICATION, from you.

good luck, Bettina

Lindaoakford · ~*Service Worker*~

Is she just trying to wind you up?

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

I don't believe you are over reacting. It's how you feel. If you are on a limb, who do you think got you there sweetheart?

I would say,love you mom but moving in with us is not going to happen. Period.

Same o. Repeat if she tries to argue.

She is an adult, she can figure it out.

We teach others how to treat us. I very much believe this.

Doesn't matter if you had room. It's your home, your life. We don't have to share why or what.

hugs hon,debilyn

Breakingfree · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi Kathleen,
Did your Mother tell you about her sharing this in a meeting? I am wondering how you seem to have no communication with her, but know this. You may be worrying about the future and it may never come about, houses are staying on the market for quite awhile in our area. It seems that if it is your house and you have set boundaries about whom or that no one is moving in with you, than you know the answer. I shadow someone above saying it sounds like communication needs to take place. And if communication doesn't work, turn it over to your HP and work your program and take care of yourself. Sending you love and support.

-- Edited by Breakingfree on Saturday 13th of August 2011 12:41:48 PM

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