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Sometimes I ask why me? Why not me? I am sure a lot of us feel like we don't have many options on how to deal w/ the alcoholics in our lives.
I personally feel that we have been blessed enough to find this program & some of us have been able to heal tremendously. I am one of them. I am grateful to say that I am a recovering member of Alanon. Sometimes I still ask WHY? Why do I have to suffer; why do I have to go through all this pain. I am not exempt to feeling anything. I need to feel to get on w/ my life & grow. I have felt so much in the past 20+ years & will always grow & sometimes even slip but I believe relapse is not an option at this point.
I will continue to find peace in this program & grow ODAT!
Hoot Nanny! When I find myself asking myself that question, I'm usually feeling some sort of negitivity, ie: comparing my life to others, I do it mostly with my siblings. my answer is usually something like! God gave me my diseased kids and not them because He knew I could handle this journey and they couldn't, O course, I can handle it only with God's help, it get hard sometime, but He keeps me, and give me everything I need to keep going. That's why I'm so thankful for al-anon and this site, everyday I feel I get stronger and stronger. Ruby
Kath...you reminded me of the question my sponsor asked me after I asked "why me?"
"Why not you?" he asked and sent me in all kinds of other discovery directions. One of the solutions was since I was "in the" and "working the Al-Anon" program wasn't I able to have all kinds of alternatives in my life than before I got here? Yes and Life on life's terms didn't mean I had to go thru it the same way I did before I got here.
I no longer suffer...at one time there was no option but to suffer and then suffering became only one option (down near the bottom) and now suffering isn't even brought up.
Beyond words am I grateful for this program and all that it took to have me find it and get in.
I will continue to find peace in this program & grow ODAT! ...I'm with you on this also.
I've been trying my best to ask the lord, please help me instead of why. When I want to question life, I ask, thy will be done. It's hard and we must testify as to the good things that are happening in our lives.
Hugs, we just had this as a meeting topic last week. Something we came to embrace during the meeting was that as hard as it was dealing with the A's in our lives we had a unique opportunity to become aware of our HP on such a different level. How freeing it was to fully get how powerless we are in our material world. One of the ladies then shared "Man makes plans and God laughs." :) I wouldn't wish having to deal with an addict of any kind of anyone, however the opportunity to view myself in a different light open my eyes to a higher power I will always welcome. :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
What I have learned helps me is to change the question from "why me?" to "what for?" When I change the question, it takes me away from feeling like a victim and helps me feel closer to my HP. Then I usually can start identifying choices.
I have been asking this lately and my sponsor asked if I was going to pee or get off the pot, haha. I just love her. I like who I am and since I have been working my program I am feeling better than when I lived without it. So I am glad I have grown through what I have, it made me a great and wise person for a 33 year old. Great awareness!
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God grant me the serenity To accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference.
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My sponsor reminds me there is a lesson and a blessing in every experience I have had. If I find the good in every experience, then I am able to be grateful for each and every moment of pain for it is the pain that has shaped me into the person I have become today. Each experience has value as it is said in the AA promises, paraphrased:
We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it
We can see how our experiences will benefit others
Today I can be grateful for the pain for it is the touchstone of all spiritual progress.
