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After the tragic death of my A hubby's son on April 18th, so many people told me... God has a plan. Well, eventually it started to tick me off hearing that. It did not give me any comfort at all.
Then one day, talking to someone, i had a aha moment! YES!!!! God does have a plan, however the devil does too! The devil is contantly at work using weak people to use them to do bad things that interfear in Gods plan.
God's plan could not have been for my 19 year old step son to have his life taken away by a thug wanna be with a gun. God's plan was not for me to marry an addict and have this troubled marriage.
I believe that God's plan for us in alanon is to achieve a life full of joy. It's up to us to choose to let that joy in our lives, with or without the "A" in our lives.
It's been a long time since I've participated in Alanon, but I'm back. I'm back and ready to let God's plan shine through me.
As of this moment, I am not letting the devil do his work through me. I am not going to let my put of control, grieving, active husbands choices steal my joy.
Thank you, for always being the constant in my life I can rely on to understand.
Sincerely
. I believe that God's plan for us in alanon is to achieve a life full of joy. It's up to us to choose to let that joy in our lives, with or without the "A" in our lives. It's been a long time since I've participated in Alanon, but I'm back. I'm back and ready to let God's plan shine through me. As of this moment, I am not letting the devil do his work through me. I am not going to let my put of control, grieving, active husbands choices steal my joy.
Dear Sincerely
Very powerful, inspiring thoughts and conclusions. Having "Choices" and choosing to live life with Courage, Serenity and Wisdom is what I believe is the true gift of the alanon way of life
Glad you are back and that we can walk this path One Day at a Time
I also wanted to add, I've worked in the funeral business and what I can say is when people can't express themselves or feel they should say something maybe it would be better to just hug someone and stay silent, I don't know. It is always meant with the best intention, however it comes out and it's shocking what I've heard people say to others at funerals. Especially when people loose a child. No one wants to hear that it's "God's plan" or "it was meant to be this way" or the all mighty "they are better off" when they are grieving someone they love. Especially a child and I don't care if you are 100 and that kid is 80, the idea of burying a child before a parent is an illogical series of events.
The fact you have turned it around though and are making choices to help you grieve the son (and honor his memory) of your heart AND choosing to live a joyful life is a totally great awesome thing. :)
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
This brings to mind a quote from Dante's Inferno that has always stuck in my mind.
"You men on earth attribute everything in the sphere's influence alone, as if with some pre-destined plan they moved all things.
If this were true, then our Free Will would be annihilated ". Dante Alighieri
What Dante was trying to say is we are not simply ruled by our destiny, but that we possess an inner power to transform our own lives with the power of our Human Will .
Bettina
-- Edited by Bettina on Saturday 6th of August 2011 01:30:09 AM
