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youfoundme


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I just got off the phone with two people:  my qualifier (A-fiance) and then my sponsor.  My A, is in the middle of trying to get off of everything the suboxone and the alcohol.  He got his NA book out and was looking at it.  He is reading a website for people in recovery.  I don't understand how these doctors keep prescribing this drug that just prolongs the withdrawals?  UGH! 

Well he called me this afternoon, not feeling good at all.  I am trying to be encouraging, but I couldn't think of anything to say, so I was really more or less just listening to him and saying "I am sorry you feel that way."  Well then I called my sponsor.  She helped me with some good words to say.  She said "You know, youfoundme, you need to remember to be kind to yourself too, you are reaching out instead of wallowing in your disease.  Good for you for calling me.  As for words to help him, you can encourage him by saying to him that you know he will make the right choice and decision for himself.  Tell him you love him.  Be kind.  Then let it go, because you can't make the choice for him to be sober.  He must do it." 

I am bringing it back here to share with you all, how much it helps to have a sponsor straighten out your thinking.  I was lost before I heard her voice and in that 1 minute phone call, she talked me out of my tree. 

I am going to remember to easy does it and to not react.  I need to remain calm to stay focused on me and stay in my HP's loving hands...  Thanks all!



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Jerry F


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Aloha YFM...That's a good sponsor lead!!  Bless her and thank her for that.  That is also what saved my butt too.  He can do the same thing that you did...Lovingly tell him to call his sponsor cause you are powerless.   Thanks for the encouragement from your end cause I needed this.   (((hugs))) smile



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Debilyn


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you kept it simple!! hugs,deb



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Pushka


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Hugs way to work your program :) P :)

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GailMichelle


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You have a sensible sponsor! YAY!

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White Rabbit


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Yay for good sponsors and for picking up the 100-pound phone! You did it - keep it up!

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youfoundme


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Thanks all :) We made it through! He got his meds and I got a sober night with him :)

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Doozy


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Thanks for sharing that, youfoundme :) Great example.

~Doozy

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Keep up the good work! Sending you love and support!

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