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Mylife · Member

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xeno59 · ~*Service Worker*~

For an alcholic 1 drink is too many and a hundred isn't enough.
Alcholics often like to believe that they can "control" thier disease with a drink here and there.
May work for a short while... but remember this is a progressive disease it only gets worse never better until recovery and abstinense.
If you havent already pls check into alanon meetings in your area and start attending.
If your mother is going to chose to drink, thats her choice. Alanon is for you to learn how to live your life weather the alcholic is drinking or not.
These are our 3C's
You didn't CAUSE it
You can't CONTROL it
You can't CURE it
Please take care of you
Blessings

Pushka · ~*Service Worker*~

I've never met an alcoholic who can still drink and be working a sober program. Addiction is a progressive disease. That's just my opinion. The better question is what are you doing for you? :) Hugs, I know it's not easy to live with an active A.

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pineapple · ~*Service Worker*~

You asked ¨.. can an alcoholic just have a glass or two every few days?¨ From what I've seen, no. My ah was sober for six months. He felt so good he thought he could have ¨just one or two¨ drinks once in awhile. Before long that turned into three or four drinks, then even more. Eventually he was back to drinking every day, sometimes all day. Your mother will drink if she chooses to, you can't change her, but you can take care of you. Please keep coming back.

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

If she has to hide it says alot for the answer. Alcoholism is a compulsion of the mind and an allergy of the body. Obsession and Compulsion is huge to the alcoholic and why they have so much trouble not drinking and getting into recovery.

I suggest you get as much information as you can if you have not already at a face to face Al-Anon meeting for the family, friends, spouses and associates of alcoholics.

Playing "find the bottle" is a tedious game with no winners. Keep coming back

(((((hugs))))) smile

youfoundme · ~*Service Worker*~

For me, I know that if I keep checking, I am deep in my disease. My addiction is focusing on my A and the chaos that ensues from that. Now with my Alanon program and sponsor, I am beginning to feel better and I am able to live without the checking. Keep coming!

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

I'm just wondering what your thoughts are.

My first thought was,"It is none of my business." I have no right to even give it any energy. What a person does is up to them, I can only control me. I want to love my loved ones unconditionally.

Of course she drinks, she is an A. We have no idea if they are drinking. Do we follow them to the bathroom?Do we have hidden cameras at night?

It just does not matter, we cannot change it anyway. All we do is make them uncomfortable around us,and hurt their dignity.

I drove up to my dear, dear friend since we were 12. We are 58 now. I saw her hide her wine. I walked up hugged her, said C for petes sake don't hide anything from me! I love you just how you are! We are soooo close.love that nut!

I would NEVER think oh you must stop. not my business.

Believe me I do relate! But after Al anon I just didn't give it energy anymore, just loved the A's in my life.

hugs,debilyn

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