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sameoldstuff


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WELL, HERE IAM AGAIN VENTING. MY AH AND I ARE GETTING A DIVORCE HE JUST GOT OUT OF HIS 3RD INPATIENT REHAB IN ABOUT 9 MONTHS, BUT THIS ONE ONLY FOR 2 WKS, OF COURSE I PICKED HIM UP LET HIM COME HOME (JUSTIFIYING IT BECAUSE HE STAYS IN ANOTHER PART OF HOUSE AND ALSO THINKING I BETTER DO WHAT HE WANTS OR HE WILL GET UGLY AGAIN ABOUT SELLING HOUSE, CHILD SUPPORT, ETC...... WELL IT HAS BEEN ABOUT 1 WEEK SINCE HE HAS BEEN HOME, THE WEEKEND WAS GREAT BECAUSE ONCE AGAIN I CAN VERY EASILY FORGET ABOUT EVERYTHING I HAVE BEEN THROUGH WITH MY AH, AND I DO MEAN IT HAS BEEN HORRIBLE, BUT I JUST CONVENIENTLY THINK OH HE IS SO NICE AND WONDERFUL (AM I STUPID!) I MEAN REALLY WHEN WILL I LEARN, ANYHOW THIS IS HOW IT WENT YESTERDAY I SAW MY THERAPIST AND AS USUALL HE COPPED AN ATTITUDE BECAUSE HE NEW I WAS GOING TO MY APPT. (HE SAYS EVERYTIME I SEE HER I AM SO COLD) WELL THE TRUTH IS IAM NOT COLD IAM SETTING BOUNDARIES FOR MYSELF AND HE DOES NOT LIKE THIS AT ALL! HE IS BLAMING IT ON THE THERAPIST, WHICH IN REALITY SHE HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH MY DECISION MAKING, SHE KEEPS ME IN CHECK BECAUSE I HAVE AL ONG WAY FOR MY RECOVERY. WELL HE JUST LEFT THE HO USE LIKE AT MIDNIGHT AND I HAD NO IDEA WHERE HE WAS GOING (WELL I SUSPECT PROBABLY TO DRINK) BUT THATS HIS BUSINESS. THEN HE SENT ME A HORRIBLE TEXT MESSAGE BECAUSE I THOUGHT IT WAS NOT A GOOD IDEA FOR HIM TO BE HOME WHILE HE IS WORKING HIS PROGRAM AND SO AM I, BUT HE DIDNT GET HIS WAY, SO HE BASHED ME AND I CRIED LIKE A BABY! ANYHOW IAM SO MAD AT MYSELF FOR NOT STANDING MY GROUND AND LETTING HIM MANIPULATE HIS WAY RIGHT BACK IN. THANKS FOR LISTENING EVERYONE IS SO KIND.



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Mattie


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I hope you're taking care of yourself by going to meetings and going ahead in your own recovery.  It sounds as if you have some good awareness going on there.  We all know that feeling of getting pulled back into the insanity sometimes!

Probably it's my co-dependent self talking -- sometimes reading posts written in all caps (LIKE THIS) is hard -- I think that might be why you haven't gotten more responses -- if you could use the lower case setting on the keyboard it might help in getting more support -- no one should have to go through this alone!  Hugs!



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xeno59


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Get back into yourself... you didn't metion if you were going to meetings or I missed it maybe. But along with therapy get to meetings where you will get the support you need.
You are getting divorced... learning how to deatch your self from his attacks will be a huge step for you
Blessings

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Debilyn


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Well is he locked in the house? Isn't there still a door out? IF you feel you made a mistake allowing him to manipulate his way back in, that's ez to change.

You don't have to be held hostage becuz of his using child support and selling the house. This is where we let go and let God.

For me it is better to walk away from the bolony and take things as they come.

Hugs! great vent! love,deb



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tommyecat


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Sameold,

As it was previously shared, the only person we can control is ourselves.  I have found tememdous strength and support in the face to face rooms of alanon.  If you have not been to face to face meetings, please consider going to six or more before making a decision as to whether or not it is right for you.

Living with someone who has struggled with addiction is hard.  But, you are not alone.  We are here for you on MIP and there are face to face meetings out there with people who understand your problems as few others could. 

{{in support}}

Tommye



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