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Samsgram


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Why do I feel so enraged every time my daughter hangs up on me?
I don`t feel a bit of serenity... I feel enraged.. I can`t have a civil
conversation with her if its something she doesn`t want to hear, she hangs up
on me! I`am so ripping angry.. I put up with this crap all to have grandaughter
around and she is the pond or the weapon that is always used between us.

Today`s incident was my fault. I own this.. I should have known not to ask for my money
that she owes me. Previous to the asking she had showed me her new designer sunglasses
 and matching designer handbag. All costing a pretty penny. Last week she was being
evicted and she asked my mother for $1000 and I asked my mother not to give her all the
money ( I know, should have minded my own business) ... anyway, my enabler mother decided to give her $1300! I was floored but said nothing. My tongue hurts from so much bitting.
Today when my d said maybe tommorrow I might have it, it depends on what I make tonite. My mouth opened up with but you can be out eating supper right now, mentioned the glasses, etc.. My daughter hung up on me. I called her back and said, why can`t we have a civil conversation, can`t you be grown up and talk to me just because you don`t like what you hear you don`t have to hang up on me. I realized that I was hung up on somewhere in the middle of that sentence. I`am steaming mad at myself and her.
I put up with so much crap just to have that little girl in my life. The child tells me all the
time how much she needs me to be in her life.

I needed to vent.. I`am heading off to a step meeting. Sure hope it helps..

 

 



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Debilyn


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Maybe tell your mom she owes you money and have her give it to you.

Someday it will hit you, that all these things are to be expected, it won't surprise you anymore!

She is a sick A, she is always like this. Nothing has changed. Somehow we have to come to terms with not allowing their disease to hurt us anymore!

We can always change us.

Don't allow her bolony to get to you.

I sure hope your mom is not real elderly and your daughters disease is not sucking her dry! Is your mom competant? If yes, well I would not try to make it my business.,

hugs,deb



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Hugs Samsgram,

This has to be such a hard situation for all of you.

Sending love and support, P :)

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Samsgram


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Thank you both for the love and support.

Deb, as for my mother I`am not so sure of her competency all the time lately.
She is doing a lot of crazy things. But I think part of her insanity is her preoccupation
with my 51 year old brother she is his enabler. He is always on her mind.

 

R~

 

 

 



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