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I haven't had a good sob yet, but I feel it coming on. I felt like laughing and crying at the same time walking out of the courthouse. It all feels so bittersweet right now after 15 years of my exAH being a main part of my life. I have been counting down since I filed in February and now it came to pass. I even shocked myself at standing up for myself and getting on paper that I have the kids more than 50/50, which than got on record. I didn't ask for child support when the judge asked me, but the child support worker was there for another case and was mad at me for saying that and said I had to receive it since I am on assistance, so I it was granted anyway, what he didn't know is I wanted it, but didn't want to say it otherwise exAH would have gotten pissed. I love how HP just works things out without me having to figure it out. Now I feel like I can move forward and start bettering myself without the divorce distraction looming over me. I will feel my feelings and move through them as I Let Go and Let God with the old dreams and I look forward to making new and healthier dreams. It took Al-anon meetings and my sponsor to get me here, slowly but surely I built up courage and belief in myself and I did it. I will no longer be abused or put up with unacceptable behavior from anyone and I think I taught my girls a great lesson if not a few along the way. I feel strong and confident and now that I am on my way my next goals are to find a better job, move out of this tiny town and get off the assistance. I am so thankful for Al-anon. And thankful for all your support here at MIP! Onward and Upward with God in control!
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God grant me the serenity To accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference.
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Life definitely has it's twists and turns, does it not? I'm never quite sure whether to say "congratulations" or "condolences", when it comes to divorce, so how about I stick with "been there, done that, bought the t-shirt" :)
Today is a line in the sand, but I really like your perspective on the whole thing.... If you need to have a good cry - let 'er fly - but here's to the first day of the rest of your life!!
In the immortal words of my wise old sponsor:
"it is neither good, nor bad, it simply IS"
Take care
Tom
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"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"
"What you think of me is none of my business"
"If you knew the answer to what you are worrying about, would it REALLY change anything?"
Here's to it all working out the way it needed to!! ;)
Another day and a better tomorrow! Hugs and support;)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
I like the part where God does for you what you don't do for yourself. Aaaaah being an enabler is so disabling. We love you and you're no flop...go cry (((((hugs)))))
Well Flop, great job, you made it through! That is tough to get through! Pat yourself on the back! I went through it last year with my ex-abusive husband and I didn't get the child support, but I am glad you did! I didn't have alanon then and I didn't pray. Glad you are ok :) HUGS
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-youfoundme
Let go and let God...Let it be... let it begin with me...
You are stronger than you think you are. I can only imagine that healing will be one day at a time and one step at a time. We are here for you. Hugs to you and your children.
This is the beginning of your new life. Its a loss and a rebirth for you. Cry, laugh and all of the above as many times as you feel like it. This is HUGE.
Thank you everyone for all the support, it has been emotional. The hardest thing for me now that it is final will be to not date for awhile. I have been seperated for over a year, but now that it is official I want to make big changes and I have to wait it out to make sure it's not reacting and take my time and make sure God is in control. I want to move and find a better job and I can feel the excitement to start my new life, but need to be careful also and take it slow. Life is hard, but very good right now. Thanks for being there for me, sometimes I feel so alone people wise with no family nearby. I have had to be strong and raise my girls and work a lot and I am looking forward to a better future. I appreciate all of you immensly!
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God grant me the serenity To accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference.
Al-Anon/Alateen Family Group Headquarters, Inc. 800-344-2666
