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Debilyn


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I know why but it is so awful.

I went on a discussion list.CL in the disabilities one. All I asked was how are you treated with your service dog. OMGOSH it was horrible! I could not believe how mean, ignorant, rude they were! It was like they were looking for a kitten to kick!

Well geez just saying that made me realize the horrible dream I had last night was me not my kitten getting eaten by a horrible dog.

Anyway, I gave up. Blocked anymore of the "discussion" to poison me.

Do you know except a couple times, I have never seen our members attack each other? Here we go thru so much pain, bitterness, loss and abandonement, yet we share, comfort, and really care.

Makes me sad when people are so angry and full of hate. I know most people may not like certain religions knocking on their door. But those people have learned something they believe in their hearts there is hope for everyone. All they want to do is share it, Whether a person appreciates it or not is not the goal.They just want you to know the possibility becuz they care,.

Yet it brings out so much hate in some.

I can tell you this site is amazing to me. I moved up here and feel good partly becuz I choose to not be around drama in town.

Some people married to or loving an A, we may know is having a hard time. So we share hey try Al Anon, you learn.....and.....we find addiction is a disease....some can lash back and tell us where to go or where to put it.

Ya know if we went door to door, shared,"Hey free grocery cart of food from Walmart for two days!" How do you think that would go over?

I am here becuz some poison has seeped into me. I know I will be fine. Just venting it out, Plus I dreamed about my husband who's being is only a memory in my  head and heart.

Just sitting here looking out at the morning doves on the deck railing green fir,maple and ash trees. Listening to the river rush by, and feeling warm from my dogs around me.Wishing the cook would make me some lasagna, green salad,hearts of palm and a cold tonic water, and cheese cake for dessert.

And a guy I always want to kiss just looken at him...is that asking too much????

hugs, love,debilyn

 

 

 

 



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Aww Debilyn ((((HUGS))))
I do love this board as well. I am so glad to be here. Thanks for sharing. You are always posting such wonderful insites. Keep coming :)

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Dear, Dear Debilyn, I so understand how you are feeling.  You are sooo wise about how to comfort yourself with the ordinary things of life.

Are you asking too much?  ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!  i TRULY BELIEVE IT IS COMING YOUR WAY---It will show up when you least expect it.

Love,

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Hugs deb, so on the mean people of the world and not you. Everyone had their own issues and some handle it more appropriately than others. You know your own intention and where you are coming from. Last night I saw taylor swifts video for her song mean lol man oh man it fit for what I was thinking about. Hugs thanks for the share! P :)

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I sometimes read CL Rants N RAves, kinda fun sometimes, seeing what issues "they" are obsessing over. And mean, wow, some of them have such anger rolling off their words! I think it shows how easy it is to annonymously respond to something with so much venom that you would never express in a face to face meeting because you'd get punched. Do you suppose they have no real strife in their life so they make strife where there shouldn't be any? The "problems" they have just make me laugh - I mean, once you've lived life in the "insanity circus" ( I LOVE that thought) its hard to see some of their issues as anything more than whining over nothing.

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Oh Deb,
how I love your heart and strength. Don't let sad, negative and bitter people get you down. There are plenty of us here who are open, vulnerable and loving to turn to instead. I am learning to avoid people who leave me with that feeling like I just got oozed all over with negativity and ick. I have to look out for me and the majority of my friends make me laugh and I feel loved. This site has been another God send for me. I need encouragement to boost myself out of my insecurities and MIP people have definitely done that. Beware there are those that will pull you down in attempt to climb up on you, because drama keeps them from cleaning up the big messes within on aisle's 1,2 and 3. Sending you love and support dearest Deb. Love, Flop

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Sorry to hear about your experience, Deb. I understand how you feel. Some people are so miserable and want to share that with the world. You have a lot of support on this forum and love is unconditional. Sending you hugs.   Hawaii



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Hello (((Deb)))

Those days when I see humanity in nonpositive behavior sometimes make it hard to see the good. But sometimes seeing the negativity in others can recharge my appreciation and focus of the positive environments I found. MIP has set the bar pretty high for me to gauge my other environments

Someday I would like to have a certified service dog. For now though I actually do appreciate the red tipped cane. I have not done it yet but I have this little idea that always makes me smile. One of these days if I run into someone who is behaving badly enough that I unable to resist I will whack them with it .... accidently.

Jen

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