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I am giving myself a very big pat on the back because I made a very conscious decision not to turn this into the DUI, I'm right your wrong weekend. HOW IMPORTANT IS IT?! It wasn't .. lol. Oh my that would have been so easy to do and I admit I had the itch a couple of times. It's more important to me to allow the law to handle things than to give him an outlet to be angry with me. It's no longer about me, includes me or anything .. woot woot.
We had other trauma, as the kittens are no longer with us. My kids were devastated and that whole deal could have been handled so differently. We never said they were ours we never moved them we never did anything except love them and they came to us. It wasn't even the adults it was this bitty of a teen. I stopped myself from making it the I'm right and let me argue with a half wit weekend as well. Once again, HOW IMPORTANT IS IT?! It wasn't really, the kids had their heart break and that's an unfortunate lesson of life. I told them those kittens got weeks of love for them and they won't forget that. I had a few slips during that conversation that's another story .. lol .. mess with me don't mess with my kids. I have to say my husband was lovely. He came home from work, hugged me told me he supported me and supported how I choose to handle the situation. No cops were called so I think i did pretty good after all only one of us can be on SCRAM at a time .. lol. My son (7) was the one who carried the guilt and I hope I taught him something as I'm the one also carrying this too. He showed the adult teens the kittens and that's what started it. He was crying it was all his fault the kittens were gone, I kissed him, hugged him, cuddled for a bit, we closed our eyes and I told him it wasn't his fault; they were borrowed from God for a short time and what fun we had with them. We took his "bad feelings" of guilt and shame put them in a balloon and sent it up in the air and then took our imaginary sling shot and popped it. The feelings went to God so He could take what we couldn't carry and turn it into more love for us and the kittens. In our hearts we did what we thought was best and only God knows our true intentions. No one else can take that from us unless we let them.
You know what even though that happened Sunday it STILL didn't ruin our weekend. The kids had a nice day anyway, my husband and I had a lovely afternoon and I went to a meeting about step 7 even though I don't know what the hell I'm doing .. lol. I figure I get an "A" for effort.
At the same time I'm very proud of myself, I did the best I could and I did pretty good.
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
I think I missed the thing about the kittens, but I am glad that things worked out. You sound like a great mom! Helping your son process what was happening with the balloon! So sweet :) Thats awesome :) Great job :) I am glad you got to a meeting. I am HOPING it works out for me this week, the summer schedules are so hard on my alanon schedule! HA! Take care of you :) HUGS!
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Let go and let God...Let it be... let it begin with me...
Sounds like you are working a very strong program and I love how you put the stuff in a balloon and sent it out of your son! Awesome! Keep up the good work!
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God grant me the serenity To accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference.
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