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my sister,the only one out of 6 of us started seaking to me agin,couldnt pour sugar on her quick enough that it would melt for over a yr now ,well i allowed her to have yardsales in my yard only for her to run off leavening me with the mess and all the stuff that didnt sale so i called her sevearal times to get it out of my yard no response no talking to me she completely shut me out,so i give it all to my needy neighbors before it got mildewed and let them have her tires also that didnt sale that my son said was dry rotted ,she is on my cell ph.line had to cut her off 1 time cause she wouldnt come and pay or own up to what she promised ,looking out for me and trying to get my bills down ,i went and visited her this morn and has had this hatred in her eyes at me and started saying things that set me off that was none of her bus.im doing no wrong and can think of several things that she is doing and done thats sorry,so i reacted and jumped up and said im out of here i dont have to listen to yur bs and im soo tired of being used by fam.she threw the cell ph. up to me on my anwering machine ,that if i cut her off she was going to tell or broadcast all my bus. to whoever nothings even been said or brought up about the cell ph.but a few weeks ago i did tell her i needed to cut them off to save some money,and she was alright with that as long as i waited for her to get another ph.so all day she has been leavening threats on my answering machine.what she would do to me if i turned her cell off,im very hurt over this and scared she aint gonna or even plan on paying her half of the bill this next mth and leaveing it all on me to pay hers and mine which theres noway i can im on a fixxed income,she is being so hatefull,and jealousy aint the word for it im reacted by telling her how she was and has been reacting for the past summer long its like she doesnt hear nothing im saying and she dont care and she done called me back accusing me of selling her tires to the neighbores for money which i didnot and lied saying my son told her i did he hasnt even talked to her and i know him he lives here with me and wouldnt even talk to her anyways cause she has been soo hateful to everyybody,im not answerring her calls none what soever im finished with her this time she has issues i cant help her with ,but at this point if she dont pay her bill i will have to cut her off and lower my mins to near nothing cause my line is the only one under contract hers aint and she knows that her contract just ran out.i dont understand why she messed up our friendship but she has and done it good this time she has used me all my life and done it agin but in the wrong way this time i can and will go back to my life not talking or acknowleging i even know her ,this hurts but she done it not me .,i needed to vent this out before it drove me crazy,sorry ,i have no family here anymore she was the last one i gave her way to many chances,my freinds told me the same thing about her,brings tears to my eyes but oh well my life goes on ive went 13 yrs she didnt speak to me so untill she gets in a program or gets help im choosing to stay away from her and out her life i dont get in nobodys bus. she has and always will and done got up in my bus.and said some very very hatefull hurtful things to me today like she wanted to ruin our relationship.im gonna figure out a way i can get her off my line soo i dont have to have no more contact with her agin theres one way i can by takeing her mney if she pays and buying her a magic jack ph.where she can just plug it into her comp.and have ph.service and not pay but 20.00 a yr and stillcall long distance but im way to hurt to even talk to her about it yet,but if she dont pay her bill and dont do nothing about it and i end up haveing to pay it theres only one thing i can do and thats cut her off,im haveing alot of anxiety over her words and threats that i dont know what to with my feelings except go and have a good cry,her lifes in a total mess cant pay her bills has 2 kids and i pay my bills and have a hard time too,but i stay on top of everything and thats gets to her too .and i have a really sick son here that i have to make lots of trips to the dr with him.enyways thanx for alowwing me to vent all this out before i exploded,lol but i did get up and walk away from her this morn and she said she didnt know y i ran out her door like i did lol cause she started crap with me and i had to leave i did throw a few words back at her cause she was in her apartment telling her girls how i stole tires from her and sold them and took thier money away from them that she was gonna use for their school supplies.ha.what a made up lie.whats wrong with this girl.im gonna do a whole lots of praying tonight maybe answers will come to me on what to do,this has been going on all summer with her as soon after the yardsale she cut me off and dumped everything on me and now this.i feel somewhat sympathy for her cause she is pityful.and im concerned she is gonna meww around and lose her kids,i dunno i just know of some babits she has thats not good and she has stolen pills from me that were only altrams but oh well thats a theif and she has theiving ways about her she wants too look all rosey to ppl and run around makeing me look bad .thanks for listening sorry soooo long and i rattled on n on agin .lol i feel beterr somewhat ,hugs i need yallls esh on this plz.....chinup 



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All I can say is I hope you are finding alanon meetings for yourself.  HUGS!  Go to a meeting, listen, find a sponsor and work the steps for you :)  Take care of you



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hugs so sorry this is on your plate. Sending lots of love and support. Family is not always easy. Good for you not getting sucked into it. Hugs again!

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My first thought was, we don't have to get into this stuff if we choose not to.

My dil did something like this to me. Huge phone bill. She paid it but it took months. Verizon still charged me. Have a horrible bill I couldn't pay.

I did not bother being mad or talking to her,nothing. I went to Walmart and got Straight Talk. Works great, Better than criminal verizon believe me.

Maybe i am cold, but if someone is poison to me, that is that. I like me too much to put up with it, or let it bug me.I don't care if it is my brother, which it was.

I am glad u feel better.

Remember that same old wonderful truth,"Nothing changes if nothing changes."

It sure it not always easy either. But I tell ya, in the end if that person or persons really love us, they will be back and treat us right. We teach others how to treat us.

We cannot be used unless we allow it hon. sounds like you are progressing and want to change things!(c:

Meetings are great, have you gone to one?  love,deb



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Wow sending you love and support!

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