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Jozie


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Having one of those "MELLO" Moments and truly don't know what to do with myself..lol.. It is like the "DramaMeter" has Dropped and I Can see light at the end of the tunnel.. And the FUNNY thing is... NOTHING has really happened, other then the Weather is Beautiful and suppose to be for the weekend, we are having some friends over at our river property for burgers and BBQ, then we plan to go Night Fishing and Bon Fires... So here is my Confusion... I have NEVER went into a weekend like this so CALM... Normally I am worked into a Tizzy over the details, and making sure everything is "Perfect" and all food is counted for, and busy busy busy...I could Honestly Care less, Just know it will all work out!... :)

Funny the Change HP can Make in your LIfe when you are open to it... Yesterday My Husband had a Tough Day, if I was standing were he was I would have been ticked as well... But I Still managed NOT to Absorb his Feelings, and Ended having a Very Great day! My son and I had a Nice Chat Yesterday about "Life" in general, and it has really opened my eyes to how fast he is becoming a young man, he will be 14 next month, and his Visions & Dreams for the future are just like a breathe of fresh air, Not that I expect him to move mountains or nothing like that, and i'm sure they will change 100 times over...

BUT... Just that He Has them! When I was 13 being Brought up by my "Cody" Mom & My AFather I was already becoming an alcoholic... So Visions and Dreams were Where the Next Party was, can't be late, and ya I didn't think any further ahead then the Next one! ... I ran the Streets all night, and half the time my Parents had no idea were I was ... Im Grateful I don't have that same relationship with my son, and Thanks to my HP, & His I've seen us grow  up together ... Now I do give him Boundry's and he knows what is brought when they are broke... I Many times in my Choldhoood always Wished to have such a thing! Wished that Someone would care where I was and with who....

Now I Can say that it All happened for a Reason, It all was brought on to me the way it was so that I Could Raise my Son, and See and Look back at the things I didn't like in my lIfe, I Couldn't  Change them Then I was but a Child, But NOW... The Choice is mine, and I Choose weather I stay in this Pattern or if I Choose to be differant, and choose to "do the best I can" with a little more aggression, yet not always letting things Go cuase I get sick of them!

This Calm Could be from many things I suppose, but I Believe that is just knowing I am in the presents of my HP and that I don't have to Control, or Connive to get what I want, But yet just be Calm, be Still, and if I Listen, the Next best thing will come my way, but if ia Jump and force it, the results are not usually near as benificial.. Not for my Health or my Happiness...

I Guess I just wanted to say that This ACOA is having a Nice Spiratual Day, and i Hope it Sticks around for a while...I have been doing much Work on finding a place like this, and tho somethings that were uncovered from my 4th step and beyond, I"m OK... I did good, and I can Own that! This Program truly can work Miricles if the Desire for Change is Truly There!

Grateful to be Here! Grateful for all of You! And Truly Grateful to be Me!

Love, Hugs & Prayers Wishing all a Safe and Beautiful Weekend

 

Jozie

 



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(((((Sis)))))...."Funny the Change HP can Make in your LIfe when you are open to it..."

Sometimes it is more awesome to me than funny that when I do what I was taught about turning all of it over to HP the consequence is confidence and relaxation.  Have a great weekend...Take HP night fishing also.   ((((hugs)))) smile



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Beautiful, inspirational share! Thank you!



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Debilyn


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YAY!! Sounds like you are becoming familiar with serenity!!! I am sooo happy for you guys!

Your son sounds great, and yes he will still blow it but you guys have a great foundation.

It's so nice when chao's and drama are not the familiar, and even nicer if things do get off a bit with serenity we know how to detach and stay on our side of the street,.

Honestly if you would like me to test that, I could come over with  my six dogs and party!! hugs,deb



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Thank you for the wonderful post!! You deserve it!!

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Thanks Guys... Glad your All Here ;) Weekend went Wonderful... I was not the Crazy lady running in Circles like Normal..I Took off My "Control Armour" & I allowed others to help out and didn't try doing it all myself, Who Knew I could sit and laugh too without being overwelmed ;) Not Everyone showed up, but the ones that did still made it worth while, and I didn't sit and Fret on the ones that didn't... Fishing was Great the Husbands, Dads, & Men all took the Kids Fishing while the Moms, sisters, & Friends got to Swim, Chat & Hang Out and have Girl Time ... Again ... So Differant from how things use to be for me... My boy caught the biggest Catfish at just over 5lbs... :) We Got Pics and Sent him back to Catch him Next Year :0) So it was a Win Win for everyone...

I think what I loved the most was Nothing was Perfect, yet it all seemed to come together, family came in from out of town I hadn't seen in over a year, and chattin with them under a shade tree seemed to be Just Enough :) And since most of them Came to See Us, and I Haven't Drank since Last Oct. It was nice that NONE of them were Wiped out (Very unusual) and I don't think Any had more then a 6pack, so there were No Drama, No Drunks, & No Nonsense....Wonderful I Say, Truly Wonderful ...I am So Grateful for this Program and all the people here that help lift me and carry me when I am down... I can now Stand Tall and Know that i am Loved, regardless of my Blood line! Good Place to be...

((((((((((((((Brother J))))))))))))))))))

He was Right there Every Step of the Way... :) Didn't even have to Invite Him Love & Prayers Always

(((((((((((((((Deb))))))))))))))))

Bring them on Over, I'm Sure with My (4) Dogs & Your (6) we could have one Heck of a Puppy Party And I have to add, That I Spent Most of the next Day Playing in the grass & rolling in the dirt with my 4 legged children, and tho now Covered in bug Bites, it was ALL very worth it :)

Thanks again Guys & Gals So Grateful for such Loving Support...
Love, Hugs & Prayers to all

KEEP COMING BACK.....

Jozie

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Jozie............once again you've given my spirits a much needed lift.

Just look at how far you've come.............great stuff!!

((((((Ness)))))



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