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Hoot Nanny


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I have been future-tripping lately--someday in the future my MOM is going to permanately move down to CA w/ my sister. Every time I think of it I get anxiety & somewhat depressed. Now I know that she is going to go there in a few years I still think about it & feel so awful especially when she mentions it. I know that she also future-trips but is in the program too. I am so frustrated w/ myself too. I can't seem to live in the PRESENT because I have this doom & gloom feeling about the fact that SOMEDAY I will be alone up here w/o a soul to turn to. Crazy, huh? Well...somewhat ligitamely I have a point. My AH is quite a bit older than me--24 years actually & my nervousnes causes me to be worried, yes worried about his passing at the same time I think of my MOM leaving! HELP! I have been here before many times. Just being REAL! I don't always think this way; only when my recovery is suffering & I am slipping away.

So, today I sit here at this computer & feel some sense of relief that all I have is TODAY really & that some of us have been here before!

Stay w/ me because I still have HOPE. I have to. I don't want to drown & go back to square one like early recovery & all the slips I have had in the past!

I am truly a miracle, too. God is good to me because he has shown me how to Live & be able to find some PEACE.

Kathleen



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Hi Kathleen

 Great to read your message.  "Future tripping" is a wonderful way to explain living in the future!!! 

When i am tempted to go down that road, I remind myself that HP is always with me and when I get into the "future"  I will have done it one day at a time with HP.  I will be a changed person with courage, serenity and wisdom because of all the todays that I did then next right thing and I will be fine.  HP will make sure of that.

Keep showing up for yourself and stay in the NOW



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Debilyn


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Kathleen well at least ya admit it! Believe me we do not know anything about life expectancy of anyone. gpa was 95, gma was 106, my mother perfectly healthy was only 65!

My AH has abused drugs since he was 18!forty years, zapped back from heroin over dose 2+ times, brain surgery, oral cancer, takes so many pills and drinks, car accidents, prison...gads still going at59.

Instead of worrying, I put in my  head everything will be ok. Hey it is hard sometimes,sometimes worse than that. But really it will all be ok!

You have us, how bad can it be?? love! (c: debilyn



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Debilyn,

You crack me up, "you have us, how bad can it be" reminds me of the old saying:

"we're all here, because we're not all there"

 



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