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clep


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Recently I had a client try to blackmail me to get a good sum of money out of me. Legally they were not entitled to the money via the contract we have, so they used other pressure tactics to get me to give it to them.

In the past I would have been irate and started the whole agressive approach.  It would have been a nightmare.  When receiving the email from the person trying to blackmail me, I did not react immediately.  I took a day and thought about it.  I reviewed the documents and looked at it form several angles.

I was quite upset with how manipulative the person was being, but my upset didn't determine my reaction.

I sent back a well thought out email that I am confident will end the issue right away. Without this program things would have looked much different with this situation as with many others.

Thanks Al-anon.



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Pushka


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clep wrote:
I was quite upset with how manipulative the person was being, but my upset didn't determine my reaction.

Thanks Al-anon.

 Woot woot :)  Change that word to ACTION!!  :)  You did nothing in the reaction catagory and you go!!  Congrats on your health and many blessings to continued growth. :)



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Hi Clep

Great recovery  I too found that the changes were very subtle.   I did not know they had happened, UNTIL like you,  I saw myself acting and responding diferently to a situation that normally would have had me off the wall. 

Wonderful post  Thanks



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Jerry F


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Okay that is how I was taught also...and I like to listen to other outcomes just for support...Won    derful response on your program part.   If you can let us know how it comes out for you.  ((((hugs)))) smile



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Wow that is scarey! You kept your cool good for you! Feels good eh?

After going thru so much, I think you figured out wait a minute, I don't think so....This is major taking care of you.

I don't know if you realize how strong you come across here at MIP. Have always thought you had a lot of integrity!

Hey is that your fb where you are sitting at a table outside I think?

Hugs! debilyn



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clep


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Ya it does feel good.  :)  I don't feel strong often and thanks Deb.  I try to have integrity.

My fb has a picture of my chameleon.  The same one I will change it to on a minute on here.

 

Love ya.



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That is great, thanks for sharing it!

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