I'm dealing with some resentment with the situation because of the not driving issue.  My husband asked if I would drive him in early to work that usually means 4 hours early.  I don't mind he's been really consistent with getting a ride just no one he works with goes in at that hour.  So whatever, that means though 230am we are headed out the door.  Thankfully we are only 5 - 10 min from the house and I always let the kids know when this is going to happen.  They are sleeping and so on at that hour. This is going to be 230am the next 8 days.  Again that's fine.  Short term and the money is really good can't pass that up right now the kids Will be going back to school. 

He never thinks though that his choices will affect others in the house.  I had told my daughter she could have a friend spend the night, that obviously can't happen if I need to leave the house and no one is home. Two teen girls, they are sooo not going to be asleep at that hour!!  lol .. just ain't gonna happen.  I had also told my son he could have a late afternoon play date we were going to meet a girlfriend and her son at the park.  She is so terrific, we've had a lovely summer hanging out together.  I'm getting out of my comfort zone and putting myself out there, which is a big goooo me.  I'm so not good in social situations. 

Long story short, I love to paint my pictures .. lol, .. both kids were disappointed and my husband had a knee jerk reaction.  I found that part interesting.  I did not handle the situation the way I would have months ago.  All I said to my girl was she could have her friend over every day if she wanted to this weekend and next week, I will pick her up and drop her off no worries there just no spending the night.  I am not going to be responsible for leaving someone else's child alone at that hour of the morning.  Not to mention again they will so not be sleeping and I know how cranky I will be ... lol.   My son was good to go.   He knows we will have a play date it just can't be in the afternoon.  I will be wiped out,  230am and then 2pm that's a long day by the end of it and it's not over.  A play date at 10ish would be much easier for me to handle.  I'm tired of putting my needs last and my needs are not being at the end of my rope before 3pm.  Plus I did this in front of my husband so he had to take some responsibility.  I did not go the route of your dad has no license.  That's already been established, why beat the proverbial dead horse.  Anyway, he actually said well take the girls with you, ummm .. I kind of looked at him and said that means I have to wake your son!  LOL?  I mean seriously??  Take the girls and leave the 7 year old ALONE?  REALLY?? The last part was in my mind. 

It's situations like these that it hits him the hardest though of what it means that he can't drive right now.  Disappointing/inconveniencing me he could really careless, it's my "job" to drive him.  Disappointing/inconveniencing the kids, wow .. he looks like he's been run over by a truck.  I don't feel that I'm being unreasonable.  I've given everyone different opportunities, yes it's not exactly what the expectation was, it's not a NO either.  I tried to reach the best compromise of what I was capable of dealing with while they still get to have friends over or play.  I feel like I was beyond fair for everyone as soon as the 8 days are up my girl can have her bff over and I don't care stay the weekend .. lol!  My son has VBS coming next week he's over the moon this year about pandas.  He's already done the same one he wants to go again .. lol.  I am only 1 person and I calculated out how much driving I have done in the past 8 months and we are talking in town driving, not driving out of town because we don't do that hardly at all.  12k, I normally do not put those kinds of miles on my van in a whole year and that's what I have done in 8 months.   So yes, I'm tired of trying to be taxi to all and being responsible if things don't workout the way they should.  I'm not the one who made the decisions that put us in this place to begin with, and I have a right to put my needs up in the top 2 slots from time to time. 

This is a first that my husband has had to deal directly with the fact the kids were upset.  Normally I buffer it and make excuses whatever, he had to see the reactions head on and he did not like it.  He was obviously uncomfortable and upset.  I plan on handling these situations in the same way out in the open with no blame, just the facts and only the facts. 

I love detail, so I apologize this is so long .. lol .. I'm a true story teller in that way, it's just not a good story unless the people reading it emotes in some way.  I'm hoping someday to get to the point faster with good detail .. lol. P :)