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lissa


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hi, im new to this sight, my husband is a alcoholic, ive been going to go to a al-anon meeting but i live in a small town, and am afriad od who i will run into, i hope this sight will help me, i need friends that know how i feel. any way well see if im doing this right



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Debilyn


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Welcome lissa, glad you are here!

NO worries you are doing fine. We all come here nervous then after a day or two wonder what we were afraid of! (c:

Feel free to share your situation, and or how it makes you feel. you can ask questions too.

You will not share anything that will freak us out believe me!

Make yourself at home please, we are all your new friends, and I mean that!

love,debilyn



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Pushka


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Hugs lissa,

I live in a small town as well and confidentiality has not been an issue. Every meeting is treated as a dr's confidentiality deal. We respect each others privacy. Even if you run into someone it's not a big deal as long as a big deal is not made. There is a lot of hope at meetings and on the MIP board. Welcome and just keep coming back, what you feel is no different than what many/most/all of us have experienced. :)

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flopadopilus


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Hi and welcome. I live in a tiny town and we have 2 meetings a week and we keep things very confidential here. Al-anon is great that way!

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lissa


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thank you for your replys, i found out that there is only one meeting in my town i will try to make it, did your husbands change? are you still married? mine, well he doesnt think he has a prob. even though he has had 3 dui's did some jail time ion the weekends for couple years ago. its been bad here for almost 8 years, or should i say thats when it started. i left him 2 years ago, for a year the kids and i were away from it, he begged me to come back aqnd that he changed, i fell for it and took him back, in that time we bought a house, he has let me know that its his house, ive stayed with him the last year or so because i feel stuck, i have know where to go i have two children at home under 10 years, is there any where to help us? is there any where we can go when its one of the nights me and the kids sleep in the same room, because im afraid of him?????? im at the point in my life to see hes not going to change, he wont go to aa meetings, he dosnt have any problems, (ok right) i need to get out, can you believe how much lawyers want up front omg. well thats where im at, look forward to your thoughts, thanks guys, meanns alot for your comments! lis

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lissa

Glad you found us. Remember in the meetings everyone is there for the same reason as you and anominity is of top priority. But do know that we have meetings twice daily here online. You will find love, support and a new way to live with this disease.
It is suggested that you don't make any major changes for 6 months or so after entering and working the program. By that time you will be more educated, learned new coping skills, learned how to detach with love and can then make informed decisions.
My son is an addict and by the time I hit the doors of alanon I am pretty sure i was sicker than he is. I was broken in a million pieces and totally hopeless. The wonderful people of this fellowship helped put me back together piece by piece and while my son is still an active addict, I learned I could love my son unconditionally, and at the same time hate and not enable the disease.
I hope you get to meetings and keep comin back
Blessings

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