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Samsgram


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Sorry but I feel like I`am just spewing same ole crap over and over. I feel lost and alone.
My daughter has been hitting my gd at least once a week lately. Tonite the phone rings late
and I didnt get it on time. I called their house back. (btw she has been with me for the past 4-5 days and this is her first nite back with her mother) Lots of noise, the little one crying and the mother screaming at her about all she does for her "how dare she treat her this way", blah blah.. I said, who called me..? She said my gd did.. I ask can I talk with her? "NO" absolutely not and in fact you may not be seeing her anymore from what she called me tonite. What I said. She called me a severe alcoholic. Iknow this is coming from you. I need to get her with someone outside of you. Tommorrow Iam speaking to her counselor about you, she said.  You are a bad influence on this child! As the kid is crying begging to talk to me. She is so dam mean. I speant a day in hell with the both of them today for my gd `s sake. Gosh is that hard being around her mother. She is so damn critical and hard on me and the child. I don`t interfere until I say thats it, I`ve had enough, I`am leaving and she stops. I cant take worrying about this child with her mother. I know how my gd ends up at the end of one of these. Begging her mother for forgivness and feeling so badly about herself and believing all her mother deliousional lies. I work so hard to try and help her when I have her with me ..to see a different way of living, caring, etc.... Now to think her mother can possibly take it away. I never did follow up with the cop... If anyone remembers my previous post. I tried to call him back to get more info and we did a couple of phone tags but never caught up with him. He seems to be on the road most of the time. I spoke with another guy just the other day and he didnt have a clue. Seemed like a rooky.  Thanks guys for listening to me.  I know I should be at more meetings but I just have more on my plate than I know what to do with lately. The list keeps growing. I need to prioritize. I wish I had a sponsor.. Maybe someday. Any thoughts appreciated.

 

Sams~

 



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Rosanne Averill
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Hi there, I have been reading your posts and all I can say is meetings have helped me lots and that is where I found my sponsor. The program works best when you work it diligently. I hope you can find you way to meetings and take care of yourself.

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I'm with Floppy on this one Samsgram - with all that you have facing you, I honestly don't think you can afford NOT to make the time and energy for meetings....  With time, the meetings will help you create a change to this cycle that you seem to have with your daughter & g/d, and give you some new perspective...

 

Take care

Tom



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I'm also with Floppy and Tom. See if you can find a way to start attending meetings. I quickly found out that one hour each week being around others that understand me and were willing to share their experience, strength, and hope unconditionally was a small price to pay for what I received in return......peace of mind and serenity.

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I am with the rest here, meetings have helped me so much! When I don't go to my home group, I feel lost. I skipped a week and felt so sick by the following week I HAD to go and I did. I know its hard with schedules, I have two kids, a full time job and photography I do on the side and I still have to go to meetings. I will be trying a new one out this Saturday to go along with my other meeting. Take care of you! When you are filled up with serenity, then you can pass it on!

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((( Sammy )))

I am really sorry you are going through all this. Prayers always going your way for you and grandaughter.
But I have to agree with the above posts, I know you have a lot on your plate and things getting thrown at you from all sides. But I can't think of any better solution than getting to meetings and getting the support you need.
I know for me personally I can't fight this battle alone, not attending meetings for me isn't even an option.
Due to my recent illness and being confined to bedrest for 6 weeks I was more grateful than ever for the meetings here online and even that I slipped drasically in my program and was back at square one, but at least I was still in a square.
I wish i had a magial solution ( aside from alanon ) but as hard as I have looked I've yet to find one.
I haven't been on the boards here for quite a while and haven't been able to follow what's been going on with you but seems things are progressing for the worse as they usually do with addiction.
Sending hugs and prayers
Blessings

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Meetings, reading literature, coming here, are the best things. You can always pm too. That may help ya with more of a personal touch.

Your g daughter is old enough now that she can call 911 if she needs to. We know it is up to her now.

As we all need to learn to take care of ourselves.

As far as what d said well lets see how many times has she threatened you with that?

Its all drink talking. I woul learn hon, to ignore what she says, watch what she does. Take one day at a time. Not too long and g daughter can choose where she wants to go.

For now my wish for you is to do what YOU want to do. I don't know your age, but senior centers have potlucks, play games. I would love to do that. Playing board games helps to break the ice and you may meet some great friends.

There is no reason to allow the madness over there stop your life!

time will come, you will see. So for now, build YOU up, get yourself happy and strong, then you will be ready!

love,deb



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Samsgram


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Thanks all for the replies.. I wrote another post as to what transpired today and ran
to a meeting as fast as I could.

Sams~

 



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Rosanne Averill
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So glad to hear you went to a meeting! Awesome and keep up the good work!

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God grant me the serenity 
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Courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference. 

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