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Betterfuture


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Soo.. after 3 weeks of silence (except from his mother) my AH called me today. I didn't answer because well I just didn't really want to talk to him.

Now this is amazing for me because any attention I get from him  after a few weeks of nothing would have had me picking up my phone before the first ring ended. lol I would have been all over the phone call and it would probably ended in an argument considering all the crazy emotions I'm feeling but...

I started really thinking about how Im addicted to him and how I let him just walk all over me then, I try to retaliate in by controlling/manipulating him so I can justify staying with him despite how awful he can be to me and I was just plain disgusted. bleh

Its funny its like I have so much to say to him but nothing to say. Right now I feel that it is best if I just lay low for a while. He mentioned that he had deposited some money in our account and thats why he wants to pick up our daughter. I felt like wow is my daughter sale?

Still he did not mention anything about OUR relationship as if nothing had ever happened, like he never did anything wrong that this was just the way things are. IDK. I felt kinda hurt that i was being dismissed again like my feelings didn't matter and that our daughter is just something he picks up whenever he feels like it as long as he throws money at me. IDK I really needed the money for rent I ended up working from 1pm tomorrow at a side job then went straight to work till 5am this morning to make rent. I ended up tipping out way more than usual at work which was such a blessing.

I am so glad that I prayed to my HP to handle this because I didn't know what else to do and I'm very thankful that my HP provided and took care of me. biggrin 

I just wanted to share this because for the first time in my life I really feel that connection with my HP. I think I just accomplished step 1 lol

 

 

 



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Mlkiss75


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Well done! So glad you've found some relief. I'm taking courage and finding inspiration in your post!

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Pushka


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Woot woot, doing nothing is a really hard thing to do and knowing we are powerless to do anything about another person or situation. Hugs :)

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Jerry F


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BF you got the HP connection!!  There you go...A 3rd step revealed.  Next!! ((((hugs)))) smile



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pinkchip


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Yeah, I'm hearing progress through steps 1, 2, and 3. You are further along than you thought. Just keep practicing those because they are the foundation for the rest of the program and the rest of the steps.

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Debilyn


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(c: There you go, you are on your way! I am so glad to see you using your Al anon tools!

love,debilyn



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