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I have a very hard time making boundaries. My husband and I have been together for 6 yrs and married for 14 months. He was sober for six months and now has gone back to drinking. We only have one car so when he decides to go out drinking I worry that something might happen like a DWI and I don't know if I want to go get him. I told him that and he got upset. I really don't know what I would do if it came down to it. I would problary go get him even though I would be very angry because I have a attachment to him not is not healthy I guess. But I am worrying right now on something that may never happen but I do have to prepare myself for it.
On another thing is I asked him to tell me when he is taking the car and he has told me. Which is good so I know he is ok. So I am trying to work on my situation a little at a time. FIrst I am glad that he is telling me where he is going.
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Hey everyone watch me grow. I go thru good & bad times. each day i am getting stronger.
You cannot control or change him, you can only control you. Your attachment to him is unhealthy, but that is why you are here right. Dont waste energy trying to control him, you will only be wasting your time. Of course you dont want anything bad to happen to him, but he is an adult, and he knows the various consequenses of getting behind the wheel intoxicated. Not only could he get a DWI, but he could kill someone. I would be more concerned about him killing himself or someone else. I found, the more I tried to change and control my A, the worse he rebelled.
