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youfoundme · ~*Service Worker*~

I need some support today...

Katy · ~*Service Worker*~

dear you, sending you hug's, i have day's like this one your having and it's usually when i have been doing so well too, run yourself through the halt filter,just remember we were a long time stuck in old behaviour's, it's quite ok to have off day's! Katy x

Pushka · ~*Service Worker*~

Everyone has off days it's part of being a human being. You see it for what it is that's a good thing. Can you read some alanon literature? Call someone in your alanon program? Heck, I've called the hotline when I've been totally out of sorts. I'm not sure about links I have seen others post links to different things that are available. The longest 18 inches is between the head and the heart. Hugs, sometimes it's not just one day at a time it's one minute at a time.

-- Edited by Pushka on Tuesday 28th of June 2011 10:43:53 AM

youfoundme · ~*Service Worker*~

Thank you both, I am glad someone is out there "e-listening"...

RLC · ~*Service Worker*~

I'm sending you a HUG.......(((Youfoundme)))

Everything always goes back to Step One, we are powerless over someone elses drinking and we can allow it to make our life unmanageable. We can substitute any word we want for the word alcohol and Step One still holds true. This disease can overwhelm all of us at times, we are only human...... At those times we can call an Al-Anon friend, attend a meeting, read our literature, and come to MIP for the support we need. We never have to be alone, that's the great thing about this program.

Here's another HUG,
RLC

youfoundme · ~*Service Worker*~

Thank you RLC :) Hugs back! I needed that!

Mellisa · Newbie

(Youfoundme),
Thank you for your sharing. I totally understand how you feel. I struggle with the same thing. I go thru a string of really great days where i feel serene and inspired and then I "relapse" and refer back to old behavior and find myself spinning in my own head. What helps me with my alcoholic boyfriend is practicing detachment with love and acceptance. I detach with love and concentrate on myself and my emotional sobriety and accept him for who he is and the decisions he makes and love him no mater what. I also trust in my higher power to care for me. Just remember that we're not perfect, but this program is about progress not perfection.

" With my Higher Power's help, I will keep a loving blanket of detachment with me. I will cover my loved ones with it, whether or not they struggle with a disease, keeping in mind that when I am dealing with other human beings, I am dealing with children of God" -Courage to Change

Hugs, Mellisa

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

Have you seen your regular doc? Do you have sick leave or whatever if he writes that you should not work for a week or whatever?

First I would check your physical health. Low blood sugar, anemic, need a certain vitamin etc.

Sure would not hurt. Have you asked the counselors business person if they can take two or three payments or do a sliding scale?

Or maybe just accept the part the insurance pays?

Look at you, you are your own best friend, when you look at you, what does that lady in the mirror need?

We all need help,and honey we all need to be needed too. do you have a friend you can call?

Are you involved with any spirtial organization?

you are welcome to pm me or private email me anytime my friend. I care about you.

love,deb

hawaiilover · Senior Member

Youfoundme:

Glad you reached out. I am also here for you. I've been where you are today. Dealing with this disease can take its toll on us. There will be good days and not so good days as well. It is part of the recovery process. You did the right thing by reaching out. Some of us, as you can tell, are here elistening. Love you very much and send you lots of hugs.

Hawaii

youfoundme · ~*Service Worker*~

Melissa: thanks for that reminder :) I needed to re-read that one about detaching...

Debilyn: I will ask at my first appointment this Thursday if she has any way of doing sliding fee or only accepting what the insurance pays etc. I will make it clear that as a single mom I don't have much room for therapy....and I need therapy for the childhood stuff... no I am not involved with any spiritual organization, I don't seem to fit anywhere ...if there was a Native American "church" then that would be me...but there are none that I know of...

hawaiilover, thank you! I needed that!

youfoundme · ~*Service Worker*~

Oh I got a great phone message from my alanon friend on her lunch to: STOP BEATING YOURSELF UP AND TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF AS YOU WOULD A FRIEND! She said we all do this, get into beating ourselves up and we need to treat ourselves like we would a good friend. What friend would we treat so poorly? THanks!

tommyecat · ~*Service Worker*~

Oh my dear friend YFM, I am here for you with the spiritual strength of 1,000 lions. I too have to lean on the fellowship here and face to face meetings when things just seem to be falling apart.

You are always held closely in my thoughts and prayers. Just know that what you are feeling, I too as many others have shared have had those days too. Lean into us a little, use us as a bumper to guide you back into the center of the program.

In love and support,

Tommye

youfoundme · ~*Service Worker*~

Thank you Tommye :) It feels good to be loved :)

RLC · ~*Service Worker*~

(((Youfoundme)))

Got a call form an Al-Anon friend.....got love from members of MIP......going to a meeting soon....best described as a feeling of love, support, and not being alone anymore. Put a smile on your face !!

HUGS,
RLC

Lyne · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi~My spouse has multiple addictions. Over the last almost 20 years, I have made more suggestions, recommended 12-step meetings, copied articles, figured out a workable schedule for help, been nice, been mean, etc., etc., etc. The only person I can control is myself and I'm going to do the best job I can to take care of me. Some days are better than others! Lyne

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

Can you vizualize YFM? One of the things I would do and still do from time to time is vizualize (totally...think, feel, do, picture) myself sitting down in the palms of my own HP doing a journal or reading some supportive literature until my spirit was calm again then go back to my life. Leave the journal or supportive literature so you know where to come back to if it starts up again. Rocky places help me to slow down and look around at all the "good" scenery. (((((hugs))))) smile

Mlkiss75 · Veteran Member

Sending you hugs, prayers and warm thoughts. This too shall pass!

Betterfuture · Veteran Member

Hey YFM,

Hang in there. I too felt like I was losing my mind last night. I found myself just really hurt and angry so I decided to keep myself busy. Maybe you can try to get your mind of what's bothering you by some relaxation techniques, like mediation... or if you're not into that how about a good book or a movie or tv show you really like? Keep yourself busy till you can find someone to talk to.)

This sounds super weird I know, but sometimes while driving on my way to work I scream. LOL I know its weird but I scream whatever Im feeling. It helps me get all my frustrations out. Idk maybe you can try it. Hope you feel better soon :)
XOXO

youfoundme · ~*Service Worker*~

I cannot say thank you enough, I feel so much better knowing I have a support system! Tonight is my meeting! YEAH!

surfingmaestro · Veteran Member

I totally understand what you mean by your "thinking problem." Before I was in program I wished there was a way for me to turn my head off. I can understand how it is the alcoholic turns to substances to help turn their head off. Now I'm learning to turn my head off it by practicing the steps but I'm still not very good at it. I really related with your post, thanks for sharing how you feel. I'm sending you warm thoughts today.

xeno59 · ~*Service Worker*~

((( You )))

Glad you found us ! Please know that we have 2 meetings here online daily that when you can't get to a meeting is a great tool to use and when meetings aren't in progress it's a 24/7 chat room. Please join us if you can the meetings are pretty similar to f2f and you can either listen to others about the topics and can certainly choose to share yourself if you are comfortable doing so. Lots of ESH in those meetings and I am sure you would have a lot to offer to others.
Meeting times are Mon- Fri 9am & 9pm est Sat 10am & 9pm est and Sun 10am & 7pm est
Hope to see you sometime
Blessings

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