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i called our cell phone company and asked for all the # he called since friday & ordered a statement since april of all incoming & out going calls. this is when all this crap started i found 9 phone #s he called over and over again. the longest is 2 minutes first i called 2 #s
i know you probably are going to yell at me. the first guy said yo the 2nd said hello i said screw this. i called the narc division & the told me to fax the #s to themso, i faxed it to them. they said thank you. but still have not heard anything from him. had fun with my daughter & her boy friend we laughed, checked the saw he took out the money he put in for the bills. banks were closed today couldnt get any money he has the card. it tried to pay car insurance but had to put stop payment on the check. oh well what are you going to do. i'm really ok and that scares me! i am going to make my self a cup of tea & enjoy my shows .
i always wanted to be a private eye, i think i would make a good detective.
And what does all this snooping around get you in the long run? Just more snooping around, and pretty soon you have a vicious little circle going on that you can't break. That is just as unhealthy as the A's behavior. Take a good hard long look at why and ask yourself the question. "Is it that important?" Chances are. it isn't. Just a suggestion.
well it made me realize that the car insurance check was going bounce ,so i had to put a stop on it, and i knew he was alive. sometimes i am so afraid he will hurt himself . i also wanted to give the #'s to the police i guess i slipped . at night is the hardest for me
Hey, sometimes we all need to do that kinda crap, if for no other reason, to pique our curiosity or nosiness... Bottom line, is we are human, and we "relapse" once in awhile, just like our A's.... Try to recognize it for what it is worth - unhealthy behavior (for you) that keeps your focus on the A....
I use the "look in the mirror and examine my motives" technique.... If you are doing it truly to protect yourself financially, then that is one thing.... If your motives are more around "catching him" doing something wrong, then you might want to reconsider...
These things are never black & white.... Your recovery is more important than anything else here...
Take care
Tom
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I have done that about checking the phones numbers on the phone bill that I got. I didn't call the phone company. He was gone for 12 hours one day and I wanted to know where he went an he didn't tell me nothing about that night. I was so angry that he kept that a secret. I have found out if another cell phone calls you can't trace the number. But all that looking though I found some numbers but I really didn't learn anything.
He told me a couple of months later where he was.
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