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Hello Family: Updates on my husband. For the past few weeks he has been on this drinking binge. It is going on 7 days a week. The only day I saw him sober (for a moment) was on Father's Day. During the day, he calls me just to check on me. By the time he gets home, he is totally wasted.
The other day he called and wanted to know when my vacation would start because he wanted to be off as well. I told him that I was really stressed and needed some time to myself. Therefore, I would not be available for him during the two week vacation. He did not receive it well. He left me a message today and told me that he was going to take his vacation and I could stop him.
Hubby got it twisted. I have nothing against him. I am just trying to take care of myself. It is not about him. If I get to work during the summer, it will be for one month. I told him that in August, we probably can take some time off together.
What I have noticed lately is that hubby's disease is progressing to a higher level. Therefore, I am doing my best to detach with love. I cannot fight with this disease. For this reason, I am doing what I can to live life as best as I can.
Today Shirly , my daughter, and I went to the beach and enjoyed the cool breeze and warm sunshine. It felt good. Thereafter, we went to an Alanon meeting. These are the things that give me happiness. Also, Shirley and I stopped for a quick dinner before the meeting. Shirley was soooo happy that we were together and no drama.
I will pray for my hubby. I hope his higher power takes care of him. I can't help him. My energy level is not there anymore. I have done a lot for him. Those days are gone. I will forever love him. That does not mean I have to put up with all the abuse. Life is too short.
I support you in your choice for self care. You just cant go wrong when you make a decision to take care of yourself. Knowing that you need time away to recharge your batteries is a wonderful spiritual awareness.
Hugs, enjoy your time for your recharge Hawaii, you deserve it!
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Turning your Husband over to HP and getting out of their way was the best thing you could do for him and also for you. Your Husband is in much better hands and you have more time to do what you are suppose to do........Take Care Of Yourself First!!
Thank you for your moral support and encouragement. I am enjoying a beautiful day again today. Looking forward to the Round up at the Marriot this weekend (here in California). There will be lots of round the clock meetings and sharing. Thank God for Alanon and YOU. This program really works one day at a time. Being here sharing and reading your experiences, strength, and hope gives me hope. This forum is truly a blessing from God. Thank you.
Hanks so much for sharing and reaching out. Your serenity is palpable and inspiring.
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--Mare
Grateful member of Al Anon
"Live in and for the day, each and every day, starting right now."
Janet Geringer Woititz, Ed.D., "Marriage on the Rocks: Learning to Live with Yourself and
an Alcoholic."
