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It has been a while since I posted anything but I am happy to say things are improving and there is hope. I am in the process of separation we still live together and I have been using the al anon tools and repeating and practicing do not react do not react over and over. Reaching for my Hp going to face2 face meetings and working with my sponsor so I am happy to report the separation process has begun he seems to have come to terms with it he got approved yesterday to buy a house and he wad so relieved that he could do it he almost thanked me!!!! I did say almost! My point is patience and detachment seemed to have worked wonders. Of course to celebrate he drank which makes him a happier person at the time ! He also told me he saw somebody we both know at the bar and his comment was she is so gorgeous young and cool. All I could think was have fun! I find his comments very humorous it's actually hard not to laugh sometimes. The decision of separation is tough and sad but I know it's right for me. And the fact that things are going smoothly helps especially because we need to tell our teenage daughter. And I am also pleased to say setting up boundaries have made a difference and hopefully she will go to al ateen in a near future but one step at a time. I thought I should share my story to say there is hope for everybody and when in doubt or depressed by the dark side of alcoholism remember it works if we work it. Life is good :)
I was thinking of your "nickname". The old saying saying crossed my mind...."If a frog had wings he wouldn't bump his butt everytime he jumps". I took it a step further and looked up the meaning of the saying......"Gives advice not to try to fix a problem using tools you don't have". But your not an ordinary frog, you have tools and wings........It's called your program, and yes, it does work if you work it.
