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I am doing pretty well.  Tomorrow I am taking the kids and bf to the zoo about two hours from here in a big city.  I am excited because I listened to my gut and decided to do the zoo trip instead of a Six Flags trip.  I know now that I don't really like fun parks (overwhelming for me) and that I love zoos.  Its a zoo we haven't been to before and my kids are actually excited. 

The last few days have been good.  I have been working on me and on not focusing on HIM.  My bf has been drinking, but I know now that for me, if I don't react to it, I do a lot better and so do we as a couple.  He drank last night and asked me to go to the store and get more for him.  I stuck to my boundary and said no.  He tried to get me to go and I kept saying no.  It worked, and he left me alone.  He drank Saturday and I had no trouble with it either.  Today he drank before work and I am getting better and better at letting go and letting God.  I just took him to work at 6pm, and even though he was a bit drunk, I didn't get all worried and fret and tell him to call out or what not.  I just let him go.  And that release of letting him be an adult felt so good!  Its so nice to be able to let go and relax about things. 

My Alanon contact and I talked today, and it was nice to have her there to talk with and to get out of my head a little.  Get off my own case about how I did last night and today.  I know I am doing well and making the changes but sometimes I second guess it because its all so new.  It really does help to have someone to call. 

I didn't get to read all the recent posts, but I did get to post on a few and that made me feel better too.  Thanks all!  It works when we work it :)



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Mlkiss75


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You are an inspiration. You are totally letting go and let god! I do not know how you do it but I really have to try harder. I am way too focused on the minutiae and need to take steps back and gather up thhe big picture. Thanks so much for sharing! Marianne

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Well thanks! I can only say I am taking things one day at a time and listening really hard at meetings and hear to those who have gone before me. Hugs!! Keep coming!

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Debilyn


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tell me how the  zoo went?? I want to go with you guys!

You sure sound like you are doing well!

hugs,deb



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YFM,

You are growing right before my own eyes.   Sharing your experience here thus far is benefitting others.  I am so glad that you are noticing the changes too.  You should be so very proud of yourself!

Thanks for taking the time to post your progress.  Have a blast at the zoo.

xoxo

tommye 



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Debi, the zoo was great! A LOT of walking ( of course) and a ton of people (Happened to be free zoo day ) but we had a good time anyway. With my 8 year old's dad it would have been a terrible experience of him yelling all the way there, complaining all day and yelling all the way home. With my bf, we had a great ride in ( me driving in a big city was a huge thing for me!) and a great day there, stayed calm, enjoyed ourselves, ate our packed lunch and came home again, no problems. Well there was a big traffic jam, for about an hour, but it didn't matter, because my bf and I just talked and payed attention to traffic. It was a good day. He wanted to buy nippers on the way home, I stopped, told him that was my only stop and he said ok, got what he wanted and we came home. Thanks all! It was a good day

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YFM,

That is just awesome!   Thanks for sharing :)



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