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Post Info TOPIC: Yesterday's Yesterday....


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Yesterday's Yesterday....


First Let me say that I want to Send a VERY Happy Fathers Day Out to our Gentlemen Here :0) I Do hope that you all managed to enjoy your Day because you are WORTH IT... So Happy Belated Fathers Day to You All =)

For me it was Tough I Suppose, but it always is... 3rd Year without My Daddy-0 ... But My Husband Reads me well, and on HIS Fathers day he thought of Me, ... :) We took him, Our Son, & Myself and Put the Kayaks in the water and I Went nuts with my Camera, and me & the boy had some Races... (Not real sure I like the fact that he is Catchin Me some Now) ;0) the Husband fished, and me and the boy had some Nice Talks about Life, and were he would like to go in this world, and I have to say for a 13 yr old, he's got some great idea's for his Future, and I hope & pray that "HIS HP" will help him get there... I know I will do my part, but I know in the end it is up to him and God...

I have been Learning "Detachment" all over again in some relationships, and I have learned that know matter how much "I" Detach... They still Feel the need to Stick there Claws of Control into My Life, and Worry about MY LIFE instead of Keeping their mind on thier own... Tho I can not Control there Actions, I Now Know its time to Control My own...

I guess that is were I am right now... Just Wishing that their minds would stay in their own business... I finally start to feel Healing and they have to Come back at me again, with Snide Remarks, and thier Normal sense of Control they feel they have to "Enlighten Me" ... I know it is Their Issues, and I Now... After Speaking with some Brillant Minds at my Meeting Last night, No Its up to Me to be the Better Person, because some people Just don't have the Skills, or the Common Sense, to just "LET GO" ...

I Can CLEARLY See My Part in it now, I can Clearly see where I Allowed this to go on, and I can Clearly see where I went Wrong... I Plan to Change that now that it has been Blown Wide open...And HP & My F2F Group have really opened my eyes to what I can do and what I can not... and What I can not do is Perticipate in the Insanity Any more...

Its almost like they can't stand that fact that I have Moved on in my life, that they want me to remain inside my bubble.. however in stepping outside of it, I have managed to meet some really Great People, and my Husband & I Both have reached out to others, and found some Couples that just enjoy living Drama Free ... Its amazing to be in their company... we talk about our kids, life, what ever pops up, and I set some Very Clear Boundry's with them and they have showed us the same respect... I LOVE IT!

I have Taking the Advise of a Very Dear Lady, and everything she has spoken to me has Come True over the last 6months, its like she seen what I Could not... Just in Listening... She has been the Rock that keeps me Grounded and I am Forever Grateful that this program, has brought this added Blessing to my Life...

In the Week ahead, I am Leaving on Sunday to take my Bike for a 5 day Cruise up North, I already have my Program Books Packed and plan on Giving myself Souly to HP ... His WILL ..... Will be all that is Welcome on my Trip... No Drama... No Control... No Manipulation.... No Responsibility other then My Keeping myself Safe in my travels... Now it will just be getting everything takin care of that I have to before I leave, with our Business and keeping my Husband from driving me nuts before we leave :0) He gets very nervous leaving our business in the hands of others while gone, but those are his Control issues, and what he has poured his Blood, Sweat & Tears into for the last 25+ years... So Knowing him like I do ... I know it will be day 2 of our trip before he can accually Relax to the fact that he is on Vacation...lol... but I'm Ok with that... :) Mine Starts Day ONE :0)

I am So Grateful for the Friends/Adopted Family this Program has giving me... I Never would have guessed 2+ years ago that my life would be heading in this Direction, but I am Forever Grateful for the lessons, and Skills, & Tools that this Program has brought to my life, but Mainly I am Grateful for the "Honest, Kind, Compassionate, Caring Loving People" that it has brought into my life... The Strength that has been Pasted to me By Your Words, Your Experiances & Your Triumphs that you all share with me, Your Slips Help me See My Slips, You all give me such Hope, Faith & Love that I Truly Feel Blessed Everyday, even when Times are not as well as I would like...

I Gifted My ABrother this Weekend for Fathers Day By Taking his 3 kids for the night so him and his gal could have a night out... I am So Proud of How Far he has come in Taking Responsibility of his children and fighting to keep them... I never thought he would... So Knowing he has, makes my Heart Sing... I have accepted that his Kids will not be raised the way I would raise them, but I can see he is doing the best he can with what he has on his plate, and I see Great things ahead for them all... This Program Gave me that... He is not Perfect... And Again... I"m Good with that NOW!

As I Look back tho, He Really Gifted Me, I got to Spend 3 hours at the Play Ground Being a Kid again with 3 kids 7,8,10 and they had a Great time..The Next Morning We Got up Early and Went to my Boys Soccer Game & He Made 2 Goals =) ... I was So Proud of Him.... I took my Abrothers kids out to eat to a buffet and it was Tooooo Funny, They had never been to much more then a Drive thru, so they were on Cloud Nine knowing they  could walk up as many times as they liked... :0) Helped Remind me again, of the Little things I Take For Granted... And how i Should Always Stay on Top of Counting My Blessings .... Because they are Plentiful For Sure...

Thanks for Letting Me Share...
Love, Hugs & Prayers to All.....

Jozie



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~*Service Worker*~

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Hi Jozie

Wonderful to ohear your recovery!!! Heard at a meeting:

 When I stopped People Pleasing---People were not Pleased."  That is oh so true  It is more comfortable for everyone if nothing changes.

  Good for you for finding yoru HP and a new path



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