now for sure ex a b/f,lied in court and won. - Al-Anon Family Group

chinup · Veteran Member

now for sure ex a b/f,lied in court and won.

pineapple · ~*Service Worker*~

(((chinup))) I'm so sorry things turned out the way they did in court. He lied and he won. Just doesn't seem right does it? But it's over now. That must be something of a relief. I think you're already on the right track when you say ¨..prolly best at this point is to just let go and go on with my life ¨. I hope you feel better soon.

chinup · Veteran Member

thank you pineapple for the words of encouragement......hugs

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

hey you stood your ground, did the right thing! I am proud of you! Knowing what I have learned about you, this was a HUGE step! You are working your program.

Whether he lied his way out of it or not, is moot. Shame on him! There were no winners or losers.

Think of it maybe as stuff. But what really happened was you stood up for right! The tire stuff,money stuff just is nothing.

Your serenity, your dignity is what matters. Gads u went to court, stood strong,faced him in the same room,airing hurtful things in front of others. People know he did it, that has NOTHING to do with justice.

Court is a place where we have to prove with things that are legally accepted. Look at OJ Simpson, they knew he was guilty, but he had a better attorney,more money, happens every single day.,

For me it is standing up for what's right. Does not matter what the other side says they show their true colors. Most everyone can see their manipulations, just like you did!

If you speak to him, well that is your choice.

btw weasles are very cute! lol for me I look at humans like this as air. Once they step over that line, they are nothing to me. I won't have anything to do with them. I own this chin up. I believe in the Bible, The thing that comes to me is,"Go away you worker of Satan!"

YOU my dear are doing beautifully! love,debilyn

chinup · Veteran Member

thanks deb,with lots of hugs to u and pineapple,it was tough though deb i shook and couldnt speak up hardly the court appointed attorny ket having to tell me to speak up,my ex a fought me tooth and nail,i prayed and prayed for the good lord to take all the resentments out of me,and to help me over come this and get it behind me cause i was soo burning with hurt,the dates were wrong and the exa bf caught it and jumped on it in his favor he always wins,he had called me pror to court and asked me if i was going to court,lol i sais y yes are u and he sais yes then he said he recconed we would be enemys after that i said yep he said well u tell them it i didnt do it and nothing will happen to him i said no cause u did do it well im gonna fight this and beat it then and my boss said if u showed up for court for me to never talk to u or see u agin i said fine.then this morn i got on the ph. and called the police station and asked them how come they got the dates mixxed up that they were a mth off and to plz go back and look at the police report the original one and c what he has on his report dates,she said she would and call me back but she said id sihned the affidavit and it showed may i told her i cant or coldnt remember that far backa whole yr.its over enyways and ive learned i dont never want to have to go back there ever agin and that i didnt even know what a affidavit was or that i had to ask to have others summoned i was green to the court system and how it works .i look at to they screwed up to .by putting wrong mth.but enyways ,a lesson well taught and learned from it and i do hope to the goodlord that its completly over with cause he does scare me with his ways,he is capable of hurting or killing someone and he got huge amounts of jealousy so good,i wont have to worry with him no more and go on with my life cause ive gots a really good man wanting to take me out this weekend and treat me to a nice restaurant and a movie never been treated like that before so im already trying to get butterflys over that,i did stand up for myself deb and im glad u pointed that out to me or else id never thought it but it was a huge step for me yur right yalll r gettting to know me well,sorry im sooooo crazy ,this is the place to vent right? lol

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