Well, today was a pretty stressful day.. My A brother is getting worse and worse as time
goes by. He is in pretty rough shape at age 50 and my mother who has breast cancer has been
crippling him forever. She babies him to no end. It is absolutely sickening to watch. I have mentioned Alanon but for her she says no. I understand why. Of course she doesn`t tell me this
but I think I understand. She comes from a large family where her father was the A and when
he drank he hurt the mother (her  mother), she took on the role of caretaker for the family.  Even though she was next to the youngest. She goes around looking for people to enable. She is a very ill person emotionally as well as physically. Since my dad died a few years ago she has worsened. I try to talk her into doing something with her caretalking abilties but she says no. I try my very best to go and see her every so often even if it bothers me to watch how she taking care of my brother and I know that he is deteriorating before everyones eyes. She won`t stop. She will tie his shoes, butter his bread...I mean its heartbreaking to watch..She has ripped out this mans abilty to stand on his own two feet for her own personal reasons.  Anyway, I`am trying to get to a point here.. Yesterday I recieved a call from the brother who drinks he babbles  and swears and hangs up on me. This is not like him. He tells my mother I called her which I didn`t. I mean she actually believes his words when he is not in his right mind anymore. he seems like he has gone over the edge to another place. He calls her throughout the night and hangs up on her and she allows this to happen. I know its not my business so I step aside and say nothing. But today was a family members birthday my brother went with my mother. He looks so gone. His body is distorted and his eyes look different. He looks different.. He talks
to himself... My mother doesnt really get it.. It so hard to be in the presence to this.
I don`t want to alienate myself completely from my mother because she doesn`t have much
time left .. All she ever talks about is wanting to die anyway because she can`t cope with my brother if she thinks he`s drinking so she just goes into denial and babies him. The stress of being around this today was way up there... I can`t do a thing about either one of them. I think my brother has gone off the deep end and I sort of blame my mother. But yet, I feel sorry for her sometimes too... If she only knew she were slowly killing him... 
Thanks  for listening.. I needed to get this off my chest...

Sam