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well my partner has been dry for 5 weeks , which has been wonderfull but also scarey. i have dreams about him drinking and all that intails . the sulking , arguing, and the police that have been called by a neighbour or ambulance as he has hurt himself . when he is drunk he is a bloody nightmare and i could cheerfully kill him . so to find myself falling back in love with him is not with out risk to me and my children. i have lost family and friends , the cost of this realationship has been high in all aspects .but when he is sober my little alcholic is the man of my dreams . the sensitivity and emotional depth that he posesses leaves me breathless at times . but that is the very thing that leaves him vulnerble to this horriable destructive disease . which was destroying him as he has little defence against the real world . so he is taking it one day at a time and i am watching and waiting with love but alittle cynical . i thank god for .A.A. as we would not still be together with out the fellowship it gives him . it nice to know i am not the only one out there who is mad enough to deeply love a very difficult person.
Welcome to the site :) I no long watch and wait for the alcoholic in my life ( my 21 daughter ) to be clean and sober. I work on me and work my program. She is going to do what she is going to do. The more I let her work her own program the better our relationship was. I wait for her to share about her AA stuff and her progress. I don't ask if she is going to meetings etc. It took me a long time to get to this point but I am at a much healtier place now because of it. Her relapses etc. have caused me much stress and pain when they occur and I come here when I am feeling that way. My daughter gets violent and out of her mind when she drinks/uses. She use to end of in jail etc. No small drinking with here and lots of big time consequences! It took me time to realize how I was being an enabler too. I still enable but not to the degree I use to. This helped her recovery too. I take one day at a time now and enjoy all the moments with her when I can. It is harder when you do not live with the person in my opinon becuase out of site and out of mind helps. I am only sharing my experience here is all :) Welcome again :) I look forward to chatting and sharing with you. cdb :)
Welcome, you are among friends & thank you for your honest share. Do you have any Al-Anon literature? The pamphlets, books & magazines have been a god-send, along with this Board for me.
I hear your fear & it's probably good you're a little bit cynical, that will help you focus on yourself & your own recovery. It is insidious the way the A's slowly set us up & work us to constantly focus on their needs, wants & desires.
Becvause I don't lie to other's I tend to just assume everyone else is honest too... it is so far from the truth. I pray that I have discernment & can keep the focus on my own life. Things really do happen in God's time & not ours.
Take care & keep coming back
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