never flown or ever been away from home here in 30 yrs - Al-Anon Family Group

chinup · Veteran Member

never flown or ever been away from home here in 30 yrs

flopadopilus · ~*Service Worker*~

Are you working the steps? I am working them and am getting ready to start 3 and in working these I found I have lived in fear about so many things all my life. I have let go of control and let God run the show finally, but it all takes time. Progress not perfection. I am sending you love and support! You are worth it and just take things moment by moment, until you can take them hour by hour, than day by day. My favorite saying when people start what iffing me, I say what if the moon fell out of the sky and poked me in the eye and it helps make us all laugh and get away from what iffing the future. I pray you can find serenity in going and seeing your family!

chinup · Veteran Member

ty flopadopilus for the love and support i really needed tohear that,yes i go every tues.to a 12 step meeting but ive missed the last 3 meetings,not good i know, but i will get back to it this tues. and i am gonna tell mydaughter tomorrow yes i will go get the tickets.i may get anxios at times but i can deal with it i have a good support system and ive had lots of alanon lit and reading my scriptures helps alot and that alone will get me throughit,now the being away from home thingy is another story. hugs chinup

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

Aloha Chinup...The summary of our first three steps is "Trust God" and the Serenity Prayer as for God/HP to grant us the courage to "Change the things we can" and our ODAAT daily reader suggest that "courage is fear that has said its prayers" and more. Doing something different for me early in recovery was so very fearful and then I found out I could still do something different and feel fearful at the same time. Then I learned the program acronym for F.E.A.R. False Evidence Appearing Real. Its in my head and my head doesn't have any knowledge and experience (=wisdom) just all kinds of voices and pictures it dreams up which are not based upon reality. My wife conversed with me the other night a great alternative for fear she learned in Al-Anon and that is to use Caution rather than outright fear. Caution is moving forward with thought, the experiences of others and the faith that HP will remain caring throughout the endeavor. Think before you move...ask for additional support and acknowledge the HP which stands with you and always has. It is safer flying in an airplane than automobile travel. Sit by the window and get a God's eye view of the planet you live on. (((((hugs))))) smile

Tracy · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi Chinup step three definetly works if you work it your Hp is with you 24 hours aday. 6 years ago I flew on 4 planes on my own from ENGLAND TO cOLORADO to visit my best friend. It was the most amazing experiences of my life. I live i England it is a beatiful country I hope you can get the courage from your Hp and I hope your journey to my country is memorable as mine was to yours.

hugs tracy xxx

Christy · ~*Service Worker*~

I'm glad you decided to go biggrin . Flying is like everything else that is new, once you've done it a few times you wonder what you were afraid of. There's is always help in the airports for direction and you sit beside people in the plane..you'll be fine.

Personally, I'd rather be up in the air instead on the road in Mississippi! It's thehe land of U-turns and no turn signals..lol

Christy

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

Well I will tell you I am like you. I hate to leave home. Everytime I pray to be safe so I can come back!

So far, well here I am! hon I don't regret going. If it were my kids, I would do anything to be with them.

Believe me I know how ya feel. Maybe talk to your doc about some anti anxiety med or some herbal things?

Ask doc about melatonin, Chamomile etc. Ginger for your tummy.

Maybe take little steps, enjoy the excitement of it all, the newness! I can tell you it is exilerating axillerating, well it is exciting! (c:

I love the feeling I get at the airport. All the different people from differnent lands! The kids all over, all the same from all over the world. LOVE the smiles from people who don't speak your same language but we all know what a (c: means.

Dress comfy! Good comfy shoes for walking. Layer for whatever temperature. Wish I could go with you and visit my friend over there! Just surprise her!

I hope you can go hon. You won't be sorry. For me it is always, ok one step, then the next. Even moving to this cabin was too big for me. But taking it super slow, I mean in my mind, throwing out the dumb stuff in my head, here I am sooo happy feeding all these crazy wild animals!

You will see your daughter!!! makes me want to train to see mine!

Sending you strength. love,debilyn

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