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Very Very Tired


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They were words said to me.  Their meaning didn't hit me until the conversation ended and I was driving home.  It was one of those HP lightening bolt moments. 

I'm struggling with control.  I have a tremendous opportunity to do something I have only dreamed of doing, but it means leaving my AH alone with our children for several days.  I'm trying to control the situation at home and follow my dream away from home...  an impossible task.

The sane solution is to "let someone else handle things for awhile."  Time to let go.  I'm scared.



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Otie


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Dear very, very, tired.  I remember going to England for 10 days once and being terrified out of my mind with fear for leaving three children at home! They were young teens.  I had an army of adults lined up to do survellience/+ I hired a live-in nanny.

Perhaps you could clarify with a bit more info?  In what respect are you relinquishing control?  Husband? KIds? How old are the wee ones.  Do you expect active drinking around the kids?

Thanks.

Sincerely, Otie



-- Edited by Otie on Wednesday 8th of June 2011 07:18:34 AM

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Loupiness


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It is scary to let go of control. Actually for me, it is the future-tripping of what I think is going to happen when I do that really gets me. One of the things I have learned through al-anon is that there are options out there. I used to get so stuck thinking that a situation had to be either this way or that way, when in reality with a little thinking outside the box, there were other ways, usually not ideal, but other ways that could get me to my goal. For example, is it possible to let your kids stay with family or friends? I had a hard time asking for help, and eventually came to find out that those that care about me were more than willing to help me out just as I was for them.

I agree you need to let someone else handle it for awhile. I really hope you can make it work. You are worth it.

Blessings,
Lou

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hotrod


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Hi VVT

HP speaks loud and clear at times.   Letting go  is powerful only when I remmber the rest of the Slogan" Let God"

Your are turning  the children over to AH and HP  Go follow your dreamsmile



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