Asking for Much-Needed Prayers - Al-Anon Family Group

GailMichelle · ~*Service Worker*~

Asking for Much-Needed Prayers

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi Gail

I do believe in the power of prayer and have added your request to my prayer circle.

This disease is certainly so very difficult and painful to handle. You are in my thoughts as well.

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

Allow me and everyone else to offer prayers for you Gail. If his language was what you said it was and his behavior is what it is also. I (from my experience with ATV) do suggest going to get a TRO and reporting the "loaded pistols" on the TRO application and the courts and the police. This is the threat/abuse cycle. I will offer prayers for you as you consider that seriously. To help you get there look up any "Violence/Abuse against women" esites that you can find; there has got to be thousands of them and please keep and open mind. You are being abused and you are being threatened. No time for fear...time for change. (((((hugs))))) smile

I don't think anyone wants me to go on and on about how many women have died at the hands of some of the men who have been thru Alternatives To Violence classes which didn't stick and those who had no support at all. Please go get help for yourself now.

-- Edited by Jerry F on Monday 30th of May 2011 12:11:08 AM

GailMichelle · ~*Service Worker*~

My ex has 3 brothers and I've informed them all thoroughly. It's 12:30 PM. One of the 3 brothers is with him now. Our youngest son is driving out to his dad's rental to gather up all his guns and take them away (he has an extensive collection). Ex is cooperating - he just called me to tell me what he is doing. (Our son called me also as he is in route to his dad's.)

My ex, as I stated, is quite delusional. He continues to think that I spent time with one of his 3 brothers last night after our son's wedding. He also claims that this particular brother climbs up in his attic to torment him. So today when he heard noises in the attic (these noises are in his head) he shot the ceiling several times, thinking his brother was up there. He also told me today that there are Ninja type people that stare in his windows. There's more, but no need to elaborate further.

Another former brother-in-law called my ex's former sponsor to ask for guidance (ex hasn't been to AA in a long time). Sponsor advised calling the authorities if he continues to make threats. The brother-in-law also called around to a few people who are knowledgable and one said that things will not likely get better from here. The ex is in the later stages of alcoholism.

Last October, the ex hallucinated that he was held hostage in his rental for several days at knife and gun point. He claims all kinds of weird things that they did. Finally, one recovering alcoholic helped him realize that it really didn't happen. Not long after that, the ex admitted himself into a rehab facility. Got clean, but went right back out and began drinking. He says that he is too ashamed to go back to his former AA groups (he had 2).

It is my hope that those of you who read these posts will realize how important it is to attend al-anon meetings to get help for yourself. Things might have been different for us if I had taken the suggestions long ago. Instead I was bullheaded, thought meetings weren't for me, and continued to do things that were not beneficial to me or the ex.

People it can get a whole lot worse if alcoholism is not managed. My ex was once a very kind, intelligent man. I don't know him anymore.
Please educate yourself and seriously consider al-anon for yourself if you haven't already done so.

-- Edited by GailMichelle on Monday 30th of May 2011 02:48:32 AM

tommyecat · ~*Service Worker*~

GailM.,

You got it. I believe in the power of prayer. Sending some your way.

((((((hugs)))))))

tommye

maryjane · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi Gail,
It is so important to support your children. I'm glad you were able to get to the wedding and enjoy the day.

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

Gail have you called the police? I never take this stuff lightly,not ever. If he is shooting guns inside in the city it is illegal.

My son came and got the guns out of the house once. A just thought he lost them or hocked them.Gail one of the most important things to me when they get this bad is to protect ourselves.

They are insane, can and will do anything.

My prayers are with you and yours. I am so sad he is so sick! I wish so much we had more going to help them!

Sending you lots of love,debilyn

RLC · ~*Service Worker*~

You are in my prayers Gail. If it is one thing the program has taught us, we are powerless over others. It's important to continue doing all the right things for you, protect your senerity and your safety. Control the things you can, always taking care of yourself first. It's all, and the best thing you can do, after that it's all in HP's hands.

HUGS,
RLC

Jennifer · ~*Service Worker*~

(((GailM)))

Prayers for you and your extended family. Keep taking the next best step and take care of you first.

Much love,
Jen

White Rabbit · ~*Service Worker*~

Of course, Gail! Prayers for you and your family.

Summer

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