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Dear linbaba, I just read the post you made to Katy ("learning to love the person").
I feel that there are some message in there that are so well explained and would be of great help to a fledgling like myself. Would it be possible for you to make it a whole thread within itself (by special request)? I think more people will see it that way.
Sometimes I gain great perspective from hearing about the alcoholic experience straight from the horse's mouth---especially when the horse has been in recovery for a long time. It had special weight for me.
There are a couple of concepts that you addressed that gave me a new perspective that I hadn't heard before. One is the concept of "RUINING THE DRINKING". I like the image of "a belly full of beer and a mind full of AA is a bad place to be"
Another one is the real deal about young people and sobriety.
You also did a good job describing the pain that co-dependents suffer.
The expression, "The Devil in a Sunday Dress", is just PRECIOUS! I would like to work that one into my daily vocabulary.
Thanks so much for the time and effort you have given!
Love, Otie
-- Edited by Otie on Saturday 28th of May 2011 03:12:39 PM
umm...sure, sorry I missed this, I don't log in very often, so to highlight the points you would like made:
"RUINING THE DRINKING". "a belly full of beer and a mind full of AA is a bad place to be" (what happens after an alcoholic attends AA for awhile and "identify's" as an alcoholic, also known as "you can't go home")
the real deal about young people and sobriety. (the results I have seen from parents putting their children in Rehab)
describing the pain that co-dependents suffer. (well we are familiar with that, but just like I a double winner, ie in recovery from codependency and alcoholism, I suffered equally from the results of my own codi/alky tendencies, as I "suffered" at the hands of others, ie my family of origin, as in codependency was at least as harmful in my family, if not more so then alcoholism) is that what you mean?
"The Devil in a Sunday Dress" (describing how our codependency dresses up as good motives, but how good intentions are the road to hell)
Is that what you would like? and if anything else, please feel free to ask, I will reread the responses to this and put together something comprehensive
Yes, those are the bones of what I was interested in. Why don't you just cut and paste the origional text into a brand new thread. You can explain that you are doing it to honor a special request by me.
I feel that this text (posting) is particularily good---explaining some concepts that probably are not common knowledge to many of the members like myself. Coming from you, with your background and experience, I think it carrys a lot of weight. It is very articulate and I feel it deserves to be placed in a more visible spot---it can help more people that way.
Will do, I will clean it up maybe round it out, gimme a minute (an undetermined length of time in the next 48 hours) as I am in the middle of a pretty grueling few days atm
