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Ok, I just wanted to see what you do when that hormonal thing happens to you *every* month...how you handle that crankiness? Those that have already gone through the change, maybe you have some wisdom? And those that have worked the steps, do the hormones still affect you? I am just wondering because it seems when those days are here, I have a VERY hard time keeping my mouth shut. I don't know what it is. I am talking and saying things I don't mean. I know what I need to be doing, but I am not doing it. I know I need to keep calm and not bring up stuff, but I do it anyway...UGH! Sorry if this is TMI, and guys, if you want to say something thats ok too...I am just struggling with this today :(
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I'm somewhere in the midst of "the change" and my major symptoms are insomnia and anxiety, neither of which are responsive to rational self-talk. The anxiety is purely physical, not caused by any event or situation.
When I find myself getting irritable (sleeplessness will do that, lol), I find "How important is it?" and "Don't react" help. I take it one step further when I feel an argument starting to brew -- I picture one of those neon orange equipment warning signs with "Do not engage!" on it.
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SUJYOIYO ... pronounced shoog yo E yo ... my shortcut for shut up Jenny your opinion is your opinion. I have changes of hormones going on too. And it makes practicing my program extremely difficult at times. I do the best I can with what I have at the moment. If duct tape would not hurt to take off I would use it a couple days a month at least.
Jen
-- Edited by Jennifer on Friday 27th of May 2011 02:26:03 PM
I stay away from sugary stuff - started doing it for a diet thing but discovered a much easier time during that time of the month as one of the unexpected benefits. I also heard it said by a woman's doctor that you should pay attention to the issues that seem to get to you while in "that" time, because they are issues that need to be resolved within you, preferrably before you reach menopause where it will get worse. I thought that was interesting. Also noted was a woman's cycle - the first two weeks are a period of moving forward (feeling your best), the body looking forward to giving life (pregnancy), ovulation occurs, no pregnancy happens so the body turns inward, steps back so to speak. This day and age we tend to try to go full steam through every day of the month when our bodies NEED us to take a step back during that second half of the cycle and not try to conquer the world. I try to pay attention to where I am in my cycle and understand that this week may not be the best week to tackle some particular project. It helps.
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The timing idea makes total sense to me. I have put off projects I was planning on during times I felt I needed a break instead. Thinking about it those months were alot easier to manage. I will start paying more attention to my timing and workloads. Thanks.
Jen
PS this thread and sharing my personal shortcut made me laugh too ... but I like the ideas and will put them to use
-- Edited by Jennifer on Friday 27th of May 2011 04:20:28 PM
Oh yes, I relate. It's harder for me to be rational and act with my brain when I'm hormonal. I try to limit my caffeine to one cup of coffee or none, if I can do it. I sure do want it, but WOW does it contribute to my anxiety and irritability. I've also found that limiting sugar really helps.
However, sometimes it does get the best of me and I'm neither patient nor kind. I try to sincerely apologize for biting my poor husband's head off if I do that, or explain why I cried at something stupid - even if the apology or explanation has to come a few days later when I'm rational. My AH just takes it in stride. By this point he understands. I just found out I'm pregnant, so there will likely be a lot of this hormonal stuff.
Oh, you've sucked me in to this question..... I am past that time in my life....but I remember..... I considered that week of the month as the time when "momma" (me) got everything straightened out. I was no nonsense, get er done. My kids ran the other way. My hubby worked a lot. The dog hid. Even if I had to do it alone, I had lots of energy and and thought my mind was sharp as a tack. Then the next week came and I was soooo tired. And we just went on an even keel until the week of the month came around again and I thought I could straighten out the world.
The hormones seemed to act on me like a beer in a drunk and I charged in like a bull. Didn't think, even though I thought I was the smartest person out there. For one week/month.
Every month I go doolally, off my head, I need chocolate and I need it now, I feel miserable and I get headaches, something small can turn into a Catastrophe with me, I am unreasonable and unforgiving, I am now entering the chane of life, doooooooodo do dooooooooooooooo, I get hot sweats panick attacks, I am growing a beard, I need the windows open, and in shops a clear exit out else I go into one. I talk and stop mid sentence and forget what I said, I think one thing and say something else, I find my purse in the fridge and the butter in my handbag, I just left the keys in my car when I went shopping.
I forget to lock the house door, and because now I need my glasses my phone and keys, if I need anything more than three things I will forget something, oh and I don't like anybody this time of the month, hubby is the main one, sorry hubby, when I am like this, wow is me, I know I am right and I feel justified in all that feel, until? it's over and I think Oh my, who was that? and then I am the lamb again, until the next time, but I have thought I best sort this out, hubby says how come you get to use that as an excuse to be horrid?
So I got tablets now, prozac I think, to try to balance me out, and I feel much better, the panicks have gone, and I don't feel so chewed up inside, I still have a beard oh and I put on a bit of weight around the middle, well all over really but it's the middle bit I can feel most, I have only been on these tablets six days it may just be the fact I did something about this is making me feel better, we will have to see how I am when it's that time again, I will let you know!
Look for a doctor who offers HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy)
The correct levels of all our hormones are needed for us to achieve optimal health. I am so grateful that the universe put someone in my life who suggested that I see a doctor who would find the CAUSE behind my low energy, high-anxiety (my daughter would always tell me, "Mom! you're yelling!" ... I thought we were just casually talking...) and my depression. Some doctors hear the word depression and don't look for the effing cause!!!! They just write you an effing script. Yes, this topic triggers me. I was unnecessarily on anti-depressants for 5 years. I eventually learned my problem was actually a hormone imbalance causing my symptoms.
Men should look into this too, as they go through "andropause." Yes, it's true, they get hormone imbalances too, bwahahaha!
ooooops, sorry.... I'll keep coming back.
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