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pineapple


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I've gotten pretty good at acceptance, and detachment. I no longer even talk to ah about his drinking. But this morning I did. He'd made a date with a friend to go into town this morning. He was walking & talking very slow, had trouble getting his arm in the sleeve of his shirt, etc.  I said ¨I may be wrong, but you look and act like you've been drinking. Are you sure you're up to this trip?¨ He said ¨No, I have NOT been drinking! I took a valium.¨  I should have walked away then, but before I could stop myself I asked why he would take a valium at 8:00 in the morning. His answer-¨So I wouldn't drink.¨ DUH! I didn't know what to say to that so I did walk away. Time for me to shut up and have another talk with HP.



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canadianguy


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Wow... only in the mind of an active alcoholic, can any of that make any sense....  Yikes...  Just more crazymaking behavior - tough for us to keep ourselves out of that insanity merry-go-round sometimes...

 

Good plan on walking away - unlikely to be able to make any "sense out of nonsense" on that one...

 

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It sounds like you have really made some progress. It sounds like you are dealing with the situation pretty well. I know that feeling though. I have heard that one before, many times. Hang in there!

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(((pineapple)))

It's impossible to get in the head of an alcoholic. I am continually amazed and baffled. The three C's come to mind........We are powerless.

Keep taking care of pineapple, do something nice for yourself today.

Double HUG,
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(((Pineapple))) - I don't have much to add except to say: well done for walking away, there was no answer. You are in my thoughts.

Tish xxx



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Good job Pineapple...and I love his response to your question...it could have been just about anything as we have heard hear but to want to calm your anxiety and reaction he said..."so I wouldn't drink."  It took me years to learn how to just walk away from that one.  Analyzing it alone would have taken me a month...LOL.  Bless you oh and bless him also.  (((hugs))) smile



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Sending positive thoughts and prayers your way today pineapple. Good dettachment on your part not to go any further into that conversation. Good idea to spend time with HP after that! Thanks for sharing!

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