Assertive, or pushy? - Al-Anon Family Group

atheos · Senior Member

Assertive, or pushy?

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

Did you have to send an email? I mean is that the only way to communicate with your boss?

I would make an app. for a face to face.

First would inquire about overtime. If there is a choice to the hours you can work the overtime.

If you can speak to the boss I would do it asap. Emails can come out cold.

I have been a boss and appreciated it face to face and honest.

Good job for putting it out there! Not easy to do. sincerely,debilyn

atheos · Senior Member

Email is pretty much the only way my boss and I communicate -- he usually works from home to avoid a long commute, so I would be hesitant to impose by asking him to come in for a face-to-face...

member922 · Senior Member

I don't think you were being pushy. It doesn't sound like you were making demands. I think if the boss is a reasonable guy, he will consider your request. The worst he can say is no.

My opinion, not imposing.

tommyecat · ~*Service Worker*~

I dont think you were push at all. There are some unreasonable people out there in the world. I hope that your boss sees your willingness to stay overtime, however certain days it is not possible.

You are being honest with yourself and your schedule. That is self care. It takes courage to do what you did. I do so hope your boss is level headed, reasonable, and fair minded person.

Good Luck!

TC

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

atheos wrote:
I just sent my boss an email explaining that the time when he usually asks me to work overtime really doesn't fit my schedule well, and listing other times when overtime would fit better into my schedule.
Hi Atheos
Since your boss works from home and can only communicate by email, then emailing your need is a perfectly acceptable action.
You are correct the business exists to serve the customer and the employees are hired to accommodate this. In order to give the best service to customers, your employer needs to consider the Employee needs in this equation. Explaining your needs in a business like manner is always acceptable. As al anon suggests, take the action let go of the results.
I am sure you processed your decision to do this before you hit the send button. If your manager is making up a schedule and knows when each employee is available it makes his job easier.
Now it is time to be patient and wait his response. Keep an Open Mind and Let Go and let God.

White Rabbit · ~*Service Worker*~

Naw, not pushy. Your time is valuable, and the company does not own you. I think that putting your availability out there shows that you value your time and you are setting a boundary. Good for you! :)

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

Well then good for you!! Not easy to do. Since he has set it so you communicate that way, then it was the best thing!

So breath, think positive, you did it for you. Great progress! love,debilyn

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