Wife in hospital - Al-Anon Family Group

dean · Newbie

Wife in hospital

abbyal · ~*Service Worker*~

I am sorry you have to go thru this but unfortunatley some people have to take it to the last straw .. this disease shows no mercy . Go back to your meetings divorced or not your going to need support , your life has been drastically been affected by someone elses drinking and you too need to recover .that once wonderful woman is still in there at the moment she is just really sick .Speaking from my own experience my husb drank himself close to death not once but twice the body is an amazing thing ,it heals itself when the disease is not being fed , we have 20 yrs of sobriety in our home to day many positive changes while I was busy getting my life back my husb found his miracle . Dont give up , we have no idea what God has in mind for us . Louise

-- Edited by abbyal on Wednesday 11th of May 2011 09:07:05 PM

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi Dear

Welcome to MIP I am so very sorry for the sadness that you are dealing with. I know how devastating this disease truly is. Please keep coming here, posting and remember to constantly use the serenity priayer, and please keep taking care of you.

This disease is so vey painful for everyone.

You and your family are in my prayers.

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi Dean, I went through your path twice.

My first husband was like your wife. His final hospital stay I almost lived in his room. If not there, in the waiting room right by his room. For me I had to love him all I could every moment I had with him. Did this before he went into the hospital too.

Mine got very drunk and as a pedestrian was in an accident. He died in my arms.

When we love an A, for me, I stopped looking at the disease and loved my A's the best I could. Making every moment precious.

Sounds like your A is very sick. But from experience, you would be surprised how much their bodies can take. We just never know.

Meetings will help you to understand. Coming here to MIp is priceless. So many have been in your shoes. We all care very much as we all share such a common obstacle in our lives.

Myself have to give all I can,do all I can so I know I tried everything. No regrets. I used all the skills i learned from Al anon. Made sure I was ok and had my needs met.

Coming here and venting is a great thing to do.Getting it out is vital.

I am sad your A is so sick. They do not choose to be an addict. If they are an addict it is in their dna. So awful.

Glad you found us, you are more than welcome Dean. love,Debilyn

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

Aloha Dean...the suggestion of getting into and back to the Al-Anon meetings for me is probably the best you'll get. It was and is in the rooms that I get to sit with and learn from those who understand where I have been in this disease and where I am at now. One of the most helpful early things I learned was compassion for my alcoholic wife as I would for anyone who was being killed by this cunning, powerful and baffling disease which of course included me and everyone else in the rooms of recovery. It's not a moral issue it is a matter of disease...a compulsion of the mind and allergy of the body. Alcoholics loose the ability to choose whether they drink or not...alcohol does that for them. An open mind is the best tool I ever purchased while attending the program of Al-Anon.

I am glad you checked in with us and hope you keep coming back. We will love and support you as you go thru this mind boggling time and we will pray for her with you also. I pray she survives long enough to meet someone who's own recovery she'll want for herself. Keep coming back (((((hugs))))) smile

tommyecat · ~*Service Worker*~

Dean, I am so glad you are here. Thank you for sharing what you are going through. I have had an experience with my AH spouse that was in ICU for 9 days and it was very difficult and painful. Emotionally, spiritually, and physically I was bankrupt. It was a tough walk, one hour at a time, one minute at a time, one second at a time.

Alanon really helped me tremendously through that time. I do so hope you consider going to meetings through this process and continue to have the courage to post here. Thank you for sharing.

You are in my prayers
TC

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