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wifeofalcoholic


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These boards are so comforting.  I was so upset when I wrote my post and to see 15 posts with such wonderful information, advice and experiences has helped me so much.  I love the lesson of "not asking questions when you already know the answer."  I have done that in the past, but then my old self creeps up.  The point of leaving your "detective badge" behind is so important to me.  I would look at his phone texts, e-mails, look for receipts.  Sometimes, I would find things - other times, I would not. Years later, what did it matter?  He has had a problem.  I am proud of him for his consistency in admitting he does, for his unbelievable courage in attending meetings twice a week.  I sat home sometimes a little lonely in the beginning, but now love that he is where he belongs and I know he is one step closer to healing and that he is safe.
I am sure he discusses, at length, his shortcomings and his weaknesses in the safety of the other recovering alcoholics.  I am not a part of that and that's what sometimes makes me feel sad.  I want communication, want intimate details and want honesty. But, for now, I will take the advice you have all given me.  I will especially be careful of sitting under trees where pigeons are!



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I loved reading this first thing this morning! This board is amazing and so are all the people who have learned some very hard lessons and are so ready to share to make us laugh and help us use our tools! Very nice post indeed!

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Interesting that you would write this today because this morning I'm thinking how much I've gotten from exploring on this board. I was thinking how the great mix of people really brings a good dimension to the posts. I like that there are male posters - getting that perspective, knowing that female A's play the same games their male counterparts do; and, hearing from them that what a male A is up to (according to the woman who posts it) isn't just the A being a MAN. I also get a lot of insight from Pinkchip's posts, he's got a unique perspective and shares it well. So thank you, thank you "wife" for this post!

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Aloha Wife Great post I get the "I love him" message in it and when I was finished reading it wonder do you also "Love you" that you are attending recovery for yourself getting the same kind of unconditional love and support and growth from the Al-Anon Family Groups.  Al-Anon saved my life and AA has helped me to abstain from ever drinking alcohol again.  HP is in both programs...there is where love resides just like on the MIP board.   ((((hugs)))) smile



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member922


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I have also found comfort in the boards. I think everyone else here feels the same.

You are a very strong person. Thanks for posting.

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Oh yeah, this place is not only a comfort, I truly believe it saved my sanity. Don't know what I would do without all the wonderful people here.
Glad to hear he's attending meetings. And glad to hear you're taking care of you!

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I am glad you are here. Its not easy to come to a point of acceptance, but it is so freeing. I was a good sleuth and in time, I discovered it just made me crazier and crazier, because not finding was just as badas finding, because I "knew" it was there, I just wasn't finding it. Aaarrgghh! I found it to be more of a curse and it took time, self-discipline and lots of prayer to stop. I find myself slipping into that mode again with my teen son. Bleh.

I downloaded some al-anon speakers off of itunes onto my ipod. Yesterday when I went running, I listened to Aileen R. Boy, if you want some hope about what miracles can occur with a couple in recovery, I highly recommend you listen if able. At the very least, you may get some comfort in that it could be way worse ;)

I know two couples where both are in recovery (one 20 yrs and one 6 yrs), and they both state that it takes time, patience, and lots of work on yourself. They say it gets better, can't say how long it will take, but it will. Hearing the stories of where they have been and seeing where they are today is pretty incredible.

Glad you are here. Its a great place!

Blessings,
Lou

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John


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I posted a graphic reply to this thread of post (no not that kind of "graphic"!  LOL  But a friendly one, that I felt would also share what I have gotten from this beautiful group of people over the years... Hope.

John

http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?aBID=42727&p=3&topicID=42418759

 



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