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I wanted to let you all know, I took everyone's advice and refrained from sending anything to my ex, or texting him or anything.
I have to admit, it was a little hard for me.
I kept thinking, he's going to think I hate him...he's not going ot understand why I would ignore his birthday...times when we broke up in the past, we always still remembered each other's birthday...but that easily led us into keeping contact with each other, which would make me weaken and take him back again.
I knew this was what they call in AA.. "Right action."
I even texted his friend (former drinking buddy) who is now in AA, for support, and he agreed, I was doing the right thing.
I nearly had a fit when I didn't contact my AH on his birthday. It was tough not to. I understand where you are coming from. I felt like an ogre. But it was the right thing to do. Glad you are here.