Son is ‘’off the radar’’ - Al-Anon Family Group

Ness · ~*Service Worker*~

Son is ‘’off the radar’’

Katy · ~*Service Worker*~

It is Helish ness, I feel for you deeply on this one, for I have a young son making choices to go down that same path too, but it is their path, and by you doing what you are doing it is right and proper, and your feelings are validated here, but although we want to rush in and try and save them guide them protect them, jeez if that worked we wouldn't be here, so hey much love lot's of hug's your doing great.

katy

x

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Good Morning Ness

I am so very sorry that this dreadful disease is again active. I understand the heartbreak over what once was such a prized possession. Seeing "The car" taken away hurts because it is the perfect symbol of all the lost dreams. I know howtruly painful this road is and am glad the medical professional are involved.

Your son and family will be in my prayers

Tracy · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi Ness,

my partner was sober for 6 months last year and then his disease became active again. I found it hard trying to keep the focus on myself as I had gotten close to him again in sobriety and maybe slipped a little into denial that they are still sic even if sober. Gratefully I kept working my programme extra meetings and phone calls helped. My partner finally crashed as we all stood back and let him feel the pain from the drinking he admitted himself into rehab. He has been sober now for 7 months and learnt a lot from that last episode he really works his programme now and has learnt not to get complacent. He told me that he had a belly full of beer and a head full of AA when the pain got to much he new were to go back to for help. He too ran because he had learnt what his disease did to others plus the shame of drinking again. Today I can see the benefits of the slip it was hard for me to hand him over to Hp but I know that I just get in the way. Please look after you, your son would want you too his disease is atacking him do not let it undo all your good work in recovery. I will say a little pray for you all.

lots of hugs

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

Ness my insides are so sad for you and yours.I was just thinking how this is like when a loved one gets worse from another kind of disease. They are being taken away from us and we feel so helpless.

I know it's hard to not think about them.Very hard, especially when it is our kids.Your reaching out is good.

Praying having him picked up and held for awhile will help. He does need help to fight this disease. No expectations, day at a time.

Its hard to do for yourself when ya feel this crummy!Somehow we have to as you know the disease is pulling you down also.

I remember when I would tell myself I am at work now, all I have to think about is work. I am folding cloths now all I have to think about is that..and on and on. It honestly does help.

thinking and praying for you, love,debilyn

DreamsOver · Senior Member

(((((Ness)))))

You and your son are in my prayers.

Why? Why? Why?

I have asked myself this so many times about my own son, he has done this same thing before (five days) and then he turned up, he had gone to Florida with some "friends" and didn't let anyone know.

I wish there was a way to take all this pain and stress away, I will hold you in my thoughts.

((((Hugs))))

Dreams

Ness · ~*Service Worker*~

(((((Hugs))))) to you all, thank you.

Tracy its funny you should relate the belly full of drink and head full of AA phrase to me as I have been carrying this thoght around in my head for days.

I feel better tonight, that bloody car going rocked my serenity no end but Im (trying) to keep the focus on me.......kept myself busy all day cleaning the house even though it was clean enough..... (my old standby displacement activity!!) then cooked a favourite dinner for my daughter and grand-daughter who have arrived this evening. I get to keep gdaughter for the next week so will have great fun, just what I need!

Love

Ness xx

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