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Loupiness


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Wow!  The love and support I feel from all of you with your posts and pms is overwhelming.  Thank you!

I do not have time to to write much as it is a new day again!  Let me just say that with daylight and friends and professionals supporting me comes some clarity.  I came up with a 'new" plan yesterday morning with the help of my sis-in-law, spoke with the counselor yesterday, ran it by my sponsor last night, and now I am onto my 3rd revision. I do have another call I want to make tonight.  I had to back up. One step at a time...   You all gave me so much to think about, and I am putting it all together in phases.  Scrapped my first two plans now with the realization that whatever I do sets up what comes next, and I (and my other 2 kids) have to live with that.  The same concept, but will go about it differently.  No matter what, my child will not be pleasant at home, but how I go about getting him there will have some effect on what happens next.

What I have decided is that I am going to leave the mom out of it.  She is not, and will not be my ally.  My son needs to know that I love him and that I won't allow him to be in an unsafe place any longer.  I will let go of my "you need be x, y, and z" to do so, and just tell him I love him and want him home. I sent an email to the student assistance counselor whom my son respects, and asked if he would mediate.  If not, I asked him who else to go to. I cannot do it alone.  I do have the fact that the mom (and my son) are breaking the law, and will let him know that I will involve the authorities without question.  I know it is all much more complicated and chaotic than this.  I know it won't be easy and that I may just be setting into motion a whole new mess.  But, I gotta start somewhere...

To be continued...

and on we go....

 

Lou



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Debilyn


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so proud of you Lou! Not only will you be saving your son, your other kids will see what a great, strong mom they have!

Once they see you in action, might make them think twice about crossing mom. lol. hugs and prayers, deb

 



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((((Lou))))

You are using your tools to make the best decisions for you and your entire family, great job. I know time is limited but do not forget to stop and think about taking care of you for a few minutes when you can. Many prayers, wishes and much love.

Jen

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I am so happy to read you are giving this time and not just a quick reaction, which tells me you are on the right track! Prayers sent to you and your family!

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Just when I thought my life would get easier and I was done dealing with the A's antics suddenly I'm thrown into dealing with chaos from kids. I think I feel where you're coming from here. I have had to have two of my children committed. It's a difficult position because it puts me in the position of the bad guy but I can say from personal experience that in this case doing too much is better than not doing enough. My oldest daughter was completely out of control and doing similar stuff. I reported her as a runaway several times when she took off. If he stays there without your consent and is under 18 the police should be able to bring him home but like Tom said it puts you in the light of the bad guy. On the other hand you're his parent and are probably legally responsible for him until he turns 18 meaning you could have to pay for his sins. Not only that you want to see him do better and get on the right track. I really feel for you. I have been there. My oldest was in a lockdown facility for almost six months and has come out a whole different child. When the next one came along starting the same stuff I nipped it in the bud. The problem here like with everything else is hindsight is 20/20 and you never know what the effect will be until after the fact... I really hope that you find the best solution for everyone, I am right there with you in this as we speak.

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Great stuff Lou... I echo the others - sounds like you are using your "program skills" to deal with this tough situation in the best way possible....  Hope it all turns out for the best...

 

Tom



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