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Skyla Rose


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So I've been in a relationship with an addict for 17 years. I've been married to him for 11 and we have a child about to be 6. Two weeks ago I filed for a divorce. I have seen him since and I believe he's on the right path. Now, I have to focus on my healing for me and my daughter. I'm going to my first Al-anon meeting in 6 years. I'm going to work my steps and start healing me. I'm going to find a sponsor. I'm going to continue my individual therapy and my daughter's. I'm praying like I've never prayed before. Any suggestions?

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Suggestion?  Yeah...do all the things you just said you were going to.  Really great start Skyla!  Keep it up.



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 Skyla

I agree with Pink Chip 

OH Yes And aww

Keep coming back here and become another Miracel in Progress



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Skyla Rose


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I feel like it's a good start too. I just want to keep my momentum. This stuff is tough.

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Hi Skyla:  Welcome!

I just got back from an alanon meeting.  This was my 6th meeting in 3 1/2 weeks .  It was what they call a Speaker's meeting, where one member tells his or her story.  This is my second time to hear a speaker.

Tonight was a female speaker that is about my age.  It is so healing to hear others share their journeys.

I ENCOURAGE you to attend meetings.  It took me 3 years to finally give them a try.  I wish I hadn't waited so long.

Attending meetings is one of the best gift you can give yourself and your daughter.  Truly!



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Hi Skyla - I decided to give myself the gift of time. It brings me peace to know I don't have to rush into any decision - that I have the luxury of waiting to see what develops. A recent "crisis" on my "H's" part had me chanting over and over as I drove - "I don't know what to do, please tell me what to do" and the thought came to me (HP??) "when in doubt, DO NOTHING" so I did; I did nothing and he survived. Not rushing into anything; adopting an attitude of wait and see, has really freed me from sitting and worrying about things I have no control over; freed me from thinking I had to solve the problem when it wasn't mine to solve.

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Exactly what pinkchip said and Welcome!!!! I was so happy to read this!

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A saying in the rooms of alanon that helped me is:  When in Doubt, Don't



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