The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
So. I talked to my AH last night. Took care of the kids, did some journalling and soul searching and then woke him up and said we need to talk.
I told him "you need to go to rehab or AA and the alcohol stops today. You need to accompany me to marriage counselling if you still want a marriage. I love you and I want to be married to you but I do not want to be married to Alcohol. I am 44 years old and I will not spend another 20 years doing this. I will not. I am done."
"Recovery is hard. Our marriage may not survive it. It will get worse before it gets better and that is why we need the counselling also. We need to rebuild."
"I will make this a dry house. I will accompany you to your first meeting if you like because it is hard to walk in the door. I would like us to sit with the kids and tell them that this is what Daddy is doing so they can feel safe again. I will continue to go to Alanon and counselling for myself so I can work on my part in this."
I was calm...steely calm. I did not cry. I did not rant.
He said "I had decided today, before you spoke to me that I would go."
Thank you God. I know this is only the beginning of another long road but I am grateful. Thank you for reading and for the support - I will keep you posted.
Kelly
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Kelly
"Go placidly amid the noise and haste and remember what peace there may be in silence...." Desiderata
I was calm...steely calm. I did not cry. I did not rant.
(((Kelly)))
My favorite part of my program is having the serenity that produces decisions or inspirations that make it possible for me to speak and act with total conviction without jumping up and down on anyone's toes
May this be the start of a beautiful recovery for each of you. You're in my prayers.
The most important part of this share is you are focused on you and what you want. I did not read a reliance on his actions for your happiness. Regardless of what your husband does you are taking a step towards personal recovery, I hope he takes his step to recovery too. Praying for you both,
Recovery: it's not a linear climb, but it sure beats a verticle fall
