Well, my husband went back to work yesterday. He has been off since January. That's the nature of his job, so we are used to that. When he walked in the door last night, he was a completely different person. He gave me money for bills and was rather pleasant to be around. Today, I am sick....sinus cold....He went out and got me medicene, opened it for me, straightened up the house......Our nephews came over today.....He played with all the kids....Washed the dishes..... And...of course, my initial reaction to this was....Wow, everything is allright now....But, it hit me that this isnt the first time he has done this. I did take full advantage of it though...I took a nice hot both, and a nap...... I'm just proud of myself for recognizing it this time. It's easy to keep my distance when he is mean. Normally, I let myself get sucked right back in. I went to my meeting this morning, and I have been journaling.....I want to continue to get better, but it makes life a bit more pleasant when he isn't a jerk.......Thanks to this wonderful program called alanon, I am not setting myself up for the same heartache....