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I haven`t posted here in awhile but I have been able to find my way into the online meetings.
Much has happened since I posted and then again, hmm, its really just the same I`am saddened to say. About a month ago my daughter informed me that she was going to start attending AA meetings. I tried not to let this get me too overjoyed because I have been through many years of her going to meetings for various substances. Its justnowits not drugs, its alcohol and now she has a little girl who is 7 yrs old. She even told her daughter, mommy is going to meetings to try and stop drinking. After week one went by her mood became mean and nasty unless she constanly had people around her. I didnt know if this meant she was drinking but found out it probably meant she was having a hard time staying sober. My grandaughter would tell me how mean mommy was and I tried to explain to her that it isn`t you honey its mommy who is having a hard time but I don`t quite know if she gets it. My ex is continually enabeling her. I try to speak with him about it and what does he do? He goes and tells my daughter everything I say. They are like two peas in a pod. My daughter works in a bar/pub . I can`t see her getting clean in that atmosphere. I`am just really po`d tonite. Tonite my d goes out with a friend leaves my ex to babysit. I said to him. She is probably going to to drink. As soon as she comes in, he tells my d what I said. So she goes over to her little girl and said, smell mybreath. See, I wasnt drinking.. I can`t believe they brought the little girl into the insanity. When will I ever learn to stop talking to my ex about his daughter? Thanks for listening..
It is good to hear from you again! Good job working your program. I also try to be a stable person in some of the children's lives of A's. It is a difficult situation even when i am not related or extremely attached to the child. But I also know my HP would not have put me in their lives had it not been for a reason so I do what I can to help them through confusing areas. Hopefully the more children see how I handle my affairs it will show them a path they may then choose to follow. It is funny I have learned more about handing over and letting go more from some of them then I ever would have found on my own.
Took a long time for me to learn who was safe to talk to about my thoughts on my exah. As I grew in the program it became hard to talk to people who were not also practicing the same tools. Not only did it cause some conflict like the situation you mentioned but I needed to have someone reinforce my tools when I started slipping down the slope of losing my focus. It has gotten easier to THINK before I start talking if this person or situation will be productive or start my merry go round all over again. I transformed the progress not perfection slogan for myself a little into 3P, if I practice, I will progress and I do not have to be perfect
