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Hoot Nanny


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I really don't know what to do--my dad is ill & in the hospital & 900 miles away! I can't visit him obviously & I really don't know how he is doing for sure because my family is lax when it comes to calling to let me know the updates of his condition!

I feel so out of the loop that it kills me. My immediate family all live in basically the same area so they can visit him. I feel so powerless that I might have a threat to my own health. Maybe I am being selfish but I am concerned as I should be.

Also, next month it looks like I may have to make a trip to a hospital out of state to take care of my husband who is also ill but has a pretty good chance of recovery when we see a uroligist there. I believe they are going to check out his kidneys.

I will keep everyone updated as I get more info on my dad & other issues that might come up!
If you pray please do!
Thanks.

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I too have had unreliable relatives so what I did was call the hospital talk to a nurse , explain that you cannot come and visit as you are several hundred miles away and ask if she can tell you about your dads condition or if you could call and speak with his doctor .. I have found them very helpful and understanding and co operative , they just might prove to be all of that for you too . It might cost you a few dollars in phone calls til you connect with the right person but well worth the effort .  good l uck   Louise

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Oh you have so much on your plate. I like to send letters, cards and pray for loved ones I cannot get to.

Can you call and ask for him? He may be able to talk? Or call the hospital and ask to talk to a family member of your dad?

The family can give permisson on his chart for staff to be able to give you updates.

Always take care of you! This takes a lot out of you. And also knowing you want to take care of your husband too!

Go to Al Anon meetings too, even if you don't talk, it is good company and go for others.Do you have friends you could go to their house? Or invite someone over to sit with you? Just watch a movie or play board games? It helps not to be alone.

If you are part of a church or? I am sure there are people who would love to help you. 

Sending you LOTS of love,debilyn 

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Hi Kathleen

I am praying for your dad and hubby  i agree with Abby when my mom was ill and family just keep saying she was "Fine"  A call to the nurse on the floor was very helpful.

Please keep us informed

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