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Honeypie


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Well, I am very proud of myself. I stuck to my boundaries all weekend and did not give in to the numerous phone calls and text messages I received from A bf throughout the weekend.

I kept myself busy focusing on things I wanted to do and I actually did them. No compromise, no putting them on hold. Just me for me.

While I was busy taking care of me, A bf was thinking about his life. Had a message from A bf he took the first step and went to his first AA meeting today. I called him and told him I was very proud of him. He is going to another meeting tomorrow. He said he realized I was serious and he had a lot of time to contemplate what he was doing and realized he needed help. He reached out to AA friend who took him to his meeting.

I am cautiously optimistic. Still am maintaining my boundaries. Today I am hopeful and that is a nice feeling. As the saying goes One Day at A Time. He has a long, long road ahead of him.

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likemyheart


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Hi Honeypie - good for you! Yesterday I was driving and trying to figure out what to do for my AH's situation, through no fault of his things didn't turn out the way he had hoped and he was pretty down, i felt so bad for him. I kept saying to myself, I don't know what to do, what should i do, please tell me what to do - etc. Then it hit me - when you don't know what to do, don't do anything, just wait. So I waited and didn't do anything - part of me wanted to betray my boundaries and offer something I'd already said I wouldn't do - but then I did nothing and he survived and it turned out ok. Once it came to me to just wait, don't do anything, it was easy to just wait and see.

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hotrod


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Dear Honeypie

Great work  Keep on taking care of yourself  This program works

Thanks for sharing your success

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Good job Honeypie sticking to your boundaries. Your bf made a choice that I hope is the first step to his sobriety. Time will tell. Now HP has his eye on him so your bf is in good hands. Make Honeypie your full time job and allow HP the time to do his thing.

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RLC

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pineapple


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Yayyyy for Honeypie! You should be proud of yourself. I'm proud of you too. You stuck to your boundaries, you took care of yourself and left him to HP. Yes, he has a long road ahead of him. But you know the old saying-the longest journey begins with a single step. Thanks for sharing, keep us posted.

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pinkchip


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Good job Honey....just remember...You can inspire him to stay sober, but can't make him. He might credit you for getting him back into recovery, but he has to do all the work. Keep handing the alcoholism and his disease back over to him and your HP.

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Debilyn


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GREAT progress! You are really following your program. It will make things so much easier.

I am so glad he is taking steps!

sending you love,debilyn

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