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he's getting worried... or so he says. I have been going to my counselling sessions, going to my Al-Anon meetings... working on me. I cut and coloured my hair, just got a new job (ok, it may only be at McDonald's, but it's a job... I can't be picky), and just in general... feeling good, and feeling happy, despite his addiction. I use to fight with him about his alcohol use, get upset over everything, and when the arguments would start.. well... I would go along for the ride and things would get really bad. Lately however, if he starts to behave in a manner that is unacceptable, I simply refuse to partake in it, get the kids in the vehicle, and leave for a few hours. AH still refuses to seek help, and that's his problem. I can't cure it. I know this now. I look back at the person I was 6 months ago, and I can't believe it... that I thought that I was the crazy one! Anyway, he says he's getting worried, cause I don't fight with him anymore. I still have a problem with some things, and I am working on them, such as interuppting him ( or others) while they are talking. I'm not perfect, no one is. I still have a long road ahead of me, but I am proud to say that no one can take my serenity from me no longer. No one can make me happy but me. And you know what.... I am happy. I may not have alot of money, but I do have food on the table, house over my head... I'm healthy, my kids are happy and healthy.... and I like who I am becoming. If he's worried.... let him be. I can't control anything he does or feels. Anyway, just thought I would share. Hope everyone is having a good day
Thanks for sharing. I interupt people too. I am working on that too!!! Could it be because I have held my tongue for so long that I think I won't have a chance to speak? Glad we are here!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Aloha Jen...you're doing the practice and it's working...YAY!! Stay with it and congradulations on the new job...that's a confidence builder. I'm grateful that you have brought your success back to MIP cause we hardly ever know if the program works if we don't give it away and watch it help others. Good for you.
Yay Jen! Thanks for sharing. Such an inspirational posts. I KNOW how hard it is to walk away. It is almost unbearable and impossible - but every time I did walk away, I felt a gazillion times better than I knew I would have felt had I decided to instead engage with my husband.
And the times I slipped and argued with AH while drunk, I regretted it EVERY single time, every time.
Congrats on your new job too:)
((HUGS)). Again, thank you for sharing!
-Danielle
-- Edited by danielle0516 on Friday 4th of March 2011 09:39:04 AM
This is really good to read. I came here wanting to know what alanon can really do for people and I think you just exemplified it. Thanks and keep up the great work!
This was a beautiful read that I could so relate too. I love that you are headed towards bettering you! Inspirational! It took me so many years to not get into the fighting and be the crazier one. I felt better everytime I didn't take the bait too. Kudos to you! And I too have the same problem not talking over people hmmm?
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not letting others talk really must be a problem with this disease as well. probably because we feel like we had no voice before, and just plain sick of it? I don't know. glad I can help you and others with my post :)
