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Honeypie


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I am making progress in how I am allowing this disease to affect me. My A bf is still using and is in total denial.

I think he is very confused. He did not believe and tested me on Saturday.  He called stating he was not drinking and could he come over to spend time with me and my kids. I went to get him and once I got there, he was drinking. I told him he couldn't come with me since he knows I do not want him around me and the kids while he is drinking. It was hard for me to say no but I told him why then said goodbye and left. He was dumbfounded. It feels good to make choices based on what the kids and I need. Really what I felt leaving him at his place was relief, relief that I wasn't going to have to put up with a loud, boisterous drunk.

Over the weekend went to my second f2f meeting. I am glad I went again. Took my "feelings" notebook with me. Seems I have more questions I need to answer. I've been journaling a lot. It really does help with clarity. I recommend journaling to all those struggling.

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Bettina


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Good work Honeypie...

Stay in your serenity and recovery.

Luv, Bettina

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Bettina
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Good for you. Isn't it amazing how something so simple can make you feel so powerful?

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pinkchip


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Good work

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Debilyn


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Good for you! I know it is not easy to walk away. We love them!

I am impressed mostly because you protected your kids as well as you!
love,debilyn

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RLC


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Honeypie,

Doing what is best for you........taking care of yourself first. Both winners, for you and your children.

HUGS,
RLC

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Honeypie


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Is every alcoholic selfish? I guess they must be because A bf wanted me to give him a ride to the pawn shop so he could get a loan on his watch so he could drink more. Apparently, his unemployment money is gone. He only received it last Wednesday. Every conversation we have now is him telling me what he wants and how I am supposed to get it for him. I told him no to the ride, I am not running a taxi service. Then he wants me to get him and bring him to my house. Reminded him I do not want him at my house while he is drinking. It is like talking to the wall! He kept texting me for a while, but I guess since I didn't answer, he got the message I am busy. I am very frustrated by this child-like behavior. More journaling for me. Just needed to vent.



-- Edited by Honeypie on Tuesday 1st of March 2011 07:03:09 PM

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RLC


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Honeypie,

You get 5 stars from me.

Have you ever seen the T-Shirt that says "It's All About Me".

Why don't you buy him one for a belated birthday gift.

HUGS,
RLC

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(((RLC))),

I laughed out loud when I read your reponse. Thank you for bringing a smile to my face!

biggrin Honeypie

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